Talk about alien abduction! WH is really losing it! As I said in earlier posts he has alienated everyone including his children. He will only speak to those who have accepted his new found love!

Anyway - WH has children from a previous relationship - him and his ex got into it big time. She told him that until he got his act together to forget about seeing his son - he has only made token efforts to see him since he left anyway - hasn't physically seen him in two months. It is very confusing and upsetting to his children. WH says that she is a b*tch and that he won't pay her another dime until she takes him to court for child support. I also have a relationship with her and understand her frustration. They never did set anything up legally and she was satisfied as long as he was consistant as a father. She has stated that she will now file not only for child support but for the back child support should there be any.

My question is - do I talk with WH who is living with OW and let him know the seriousness of this situation or do I let it happen and have it hit him full force and maybe snap him out of this fog thing. The other twist is that I have filed legally for child support and he may think we are in cahoots (sp.) if it all happens around the same time. What should I do? Any thoughts are appreciated. In Plan A right now.

<small>[ June 24, 2003, 01:26 PM: Message edited by: cnf ]</small>

I would leave the discussion you had with his son's mother alone. WH won't be listening to you anyway. He's "in love" (barf) and that's all that matters to him right now.

Filing for CS for your baby is not in any way shape or form a LB. It is the natural consequences of his decision to leave a child and wife behind.

Let him experience his full fallout of consequences without any interference or advice from you. He is deserving of any confusion and legal issues he has comming. He earned this from his X. Don't protect him at all.

If he asks you a question, answer him honestly and directly. But, otherwise, stay out of the firing range. Save your energy for yourself and your child.

When you are with him, be pleasant and non confrontational.

Best of luck to you. You are in a tough spot.

Take good care of you .... and your baby.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Pepperband, Thank you! I had already decided to stay out of it but needed to make sure that it wouldn't be considered a LB to not tell him about it. I will stay neutral and let the bombs fall were they may! I just hope that he doesn't think it is by my encouragement that the X is doing this - if she does. Who knows!

But thanks again for your input! Cherie