A VERY good read indeed!
A thinking error I've read recently ....
"only married on paper" ..... It's worthwhile to consider which thinking error(s) give permission to any married person (WS or BS) to devalue their marriage vows.
minimization?
rationalization?
denial?
relabeling?
justification?
spiritual rationalization?
Usually, the "only on paper" comment is followed with descriptions of the evil deeds the other spouse committed ..... which justifies the "only on paper" thought. Completely side stepping the truth that
we are responsible for individually keeping of our vows.
All parties are probably using similar thinking errors, which---in their minds, the errors permit them to do something that they realize is wrong. It makes it more comfortable to commit adultery if we devalue the meaning of our marriage oath.
The dating WS says .... "My marriage has been dead for years. We're only married on paper."
The OP dating a married person says ... "Their marriage was over before I got involved. The divorce will only be a formality. They are only married on paper."
The dating BS says ... " The WS broke the marriage vows. I am moving on. We're only married on paper."
The same rationalizations go all around.
If it's "rationalization" when spoken by the OP .... isn't it also rationalization when spoken by the WS or the BS?
Very interesting read. I'm still chewing on the information.
Thanks for posting this.
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