I need the input of you experts out there. My D day was March 27th, 2003. I and the BS. Husband left the home to "sort out his head" (mid life crisis??)May 8th, 2003. He is staying with his mother. Since he has left the home he has come by at least once a week to spend time with us as a family (1 child, 14 yrs.) He has started coming on weekends and staying 2 nights at home, in our bed. OUr sex life has returns finally and the affection has returned. He long longer hides from me (fog lifted??). My question is how long do we need to have this "time out separation". We are going to counselling, but due to conflicts with work schedules, they are about 4 weeks apart, I think too long. Our next session is not until next week. I asked H if he thought about coming home and he said no, yet when he is here he seems happy, we entertain people and go out to friends and have spent time alone. Our lives seem somewhat back on track except I really would like him home so we can start communicating better. Also I miss him terrbily. Anyway, I know patience is a virtue but I am running out. He does not tell me what he is thinking about us or himself. He avoids relationship talks. I have not institgated these as I think it will put him on the defensive. I will see what the cousellor says next week.
I was just curious as to if anyone else proceed to recovery this way, separated short term. I know it takes about 6 months for the WS to get over the A, it has been about 4 months now. I have seen positive changes in him but I want him home. Though I also want to set up some boundaries for when he does come home. I wont got through this crap again - ever!!!!
Thanks for the input people. I really would appreciate it.
