Im trying to do all I can to follow guidelines, be positive,practice what I preach , one problem I tend to add a humanistic spin on things at times. So please try to follow my babble and offer your thoughts, if oyu are a ws or op please feel free to give your thoughts but be gentle with me...lol

* Ok if the op doesnt know the spouse
I can see where it would be easier to do what they are doing and actually think they are hurtting anything or anyone because there is no face to ahunt or assciate guilt with.Right?
So why is it, if the op is a close family member or close friend how do they do it?
Is it spite?
Devil may care attitude?
Jealuosy?
I mean they see the pain beung caused, they see the damage being done and the kids. Would htey want someone to do this to their kids?
I know I couldnt hurt others this way, because I have a conscience and I believe my conscience is gods way of letting ,me know what the right this is...Ye sI have followed it and yes I have ignored it, when I ignored it I payed, I dont like people being mad at me or hurtting others so
am I the only one who wonders about this one thing?

My H says he was able to betray his friend by having an A with his friend's W by using denial as a coping mechanism.

There are so many thinking errors that go into this, and I doubt there is one single thing that explains it, but rather multi-factorial causes.

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Thanks...Im just trying to gsther information not only to help myself but maybe a few others on the way...

If we all get to decide what is right and what is wrong, then who is to say its wrong to have relations with another's spouse? In other words, there are no moral absolutes, we all get to make up the rules as we go along, don't we?