Like the topic says
We have had a family friend for years. He does stuff with H and son. Never paid much attention to me until I moved out. Then he told me he has always been in love with me and a few weeks later kissed me.

I dont really like him in that way just as a family friend. He called me later to talk about it and I told him all about MB and my counseling and he was so nice and understanding and agreed that we would not suit each other.
Problem is it felt so good. The kiss and really the nice things he said.
I know I dont need this but it is so hard to ignore the feelings.
Any advice? Has anyone else been there?

tb1,

Haven't been there.....but my advice is don't go there. You know how vulnerable you are....so protect yourself from that kind of temptation. It's hard for someone to kiss you if you don't let them do it....so you have already crossed the line. Avoid this man at all costs in order to keep your sanity, integrity and deal with one relationship at a time.

I agree to stay away from him
I told him all about plan B and how
i am trying to fix my marriage.

He agreed we would just be friends. Dont see him much. As friends we have danced together and played card games as couples. Etc. I hugged him goodbye many times. That is how the kiss worked in. I was pretty surprised. The next day I felt so guilty.

My problem was that it felt great to be wanted again. I was surprised how strong the good feeling was just because he was so nice to me about it all.
I have NO plans to see him at all
just trying to understand my feelings
Thanks everyone

txmom:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My problem was that it felt great to be wanted again. I was surprised how strong the good feeling was just because he was so nice to me about it all.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">In Plan B, you're in protection mode. You're still dealing with the fact that your spouse has done one of the most hurtful, horrible things they could possibly do to you. You are going to be extremely emotionally needy and vulnerable. That's why there a rule that you should have no opposite sex friends (especially during this time), and you should NEVER share maritial problems with members of the opposite sex.

Right now, Ghengis Khan could ride in and say "TxMom---I've just come from a hard day of looting, raping, and pillaging---how 'bout a little lovin'?"

and your response would be "Hey, other than the yak breath, he's not so bad..." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You get the point. Keep at least an arms length from any guy until you're divorced AND emotionally ready to start up again.

What K said!

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Jim/NSR

K you are so right. I wouldnt give this guy
a second look if I werent hurting so bad.
Thanks for your perspective.

It is amazing the range of emotions that
I am going through right now.
I am really letting myself feel them
instead of supressing them like I did for so long
It shard but better than the past
Thanks