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<small>[ September 25, 2003, 06:05 PM: Message edited by: AD. ]</small>
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<small>[ September 25, 2003, 06:06 PM: Message edited by: AD. ]</small>
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1. Do you feel that anything you say or do will be twisted against you?
2. Do you find yourself concealing thoughts and feelings to avoid horrible arguements?
3. Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages, alternating with periods when they act normal and loving?
4. Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to?
5. Are you accused of things you never did or said?
6. Do you feel as if someone alternately views you as all good or all bad?
7. Does no one believe you when you explain what is going on?
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I've had dealings similar to yours but not with the extreme hostility....lots of anger but not outright hostility. My story: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=31;t=009539One thing abuse victims sooner or later do is called "transferrence" whereby they transfer the anger and rage from abuse to the next person in a subsequent relationship. I am sure there is more to your problems than just that such as codependance but the underlying problem maybe she has transferred all her rage aimed at her original abuser to you without realizing it.
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" Stop Walking on Eggshells .... Taking your life back when someone you care about has Boarderline Personality Disorder" by Paul T, Mason and Randi Kreger I suggest YOU read this book. If you are concerned this may be your wife's problem, I further suggest YOU go to Online support and referrals Good luck Pep
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<small>[ September 25, 2003, 06:08 PM: Message edited by: AD. ]</small>
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Hello AD,
One thought: Your two-year-old is at the age where a little day care will help. A kid that age is starting to need other kids to play with, use up energy with, etc. That might even help reduce "whining" -- it will certainly reduce how much of it the parents hear!
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