As much as you love your H, or think you love him... you need to let him go. Strangely enough, you should be thankful that OW is in the picture, b/c then he doesn't have to be your problem.
You already know that he's into child porn (what happened with that anyways? didn't he get arrested? if so, then why is he out and about?), you know that he's had PA's, and now an OC too.
You need to "Let Go and Let God" right now. You can only fix YOU and work on YOU. For the sake of your new baby too... who needs a mother to nurture and care for him/her... your priorities are not with your H anymore... but for yourself and your children.
There are times when MB cannot help to save a M. Both of us have experienced those times. Both of our H's have far too many problems and issues to deal with before they would ever be able to work on the M's. In my H's case... he's so deep in denial, that IMO, he's a lost cause. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Unfortunately, I don't have much hope for your H right now either.
Oh.. .don't get me wrong... your H could change. But that will take time. And there's nothing you can do to make it happen.
As hard as it is... you just need to focus on YOU. Look after yourself. Get some counselling. Have a bubble bath. Dance naked in your home! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Whatever it takes to make you feel good. And keep on posting here. Remember... the weekends are VERY slow... so you may want to bump up this post, or start another one, come Monday.
Take care,
Karen