Well I sent my WW an email today regarding more mail for her to pick up.

she replied with a short email back asking what I was doing this weekend. I left the door open in my reply that I was sticking around the house no major plans. She replied have some fun.

I then sent an email asking if she was still seeing OM and if I was now part of her past.

She didn't awnser my question directly but said,

"where are you goning with this? I'm working on making myself feel better and trying to enjoy my summer"

What are your thoughts? What next for me?

It sounds to me like she's still in contact with OM at least now and then. But now instead of telling me to "move on" "it's over" as she used to say she's now saying "she's not sure what the future holds."

Could it be that Plan A is slowly working and maybe the affair relationship is not going as smoothly as they both had hoped?

Not sure about your situation. I need more info. Let us know what's going on, where are both of you living, kids, how long Plan A, where is the OM, etc.

With what little I read here, might be your WW is on the fence. Of course, on the fence means Plan B.

but update us here where things stand, a short synopsis.

In His arms.

mortarman,

As per your request.

WW left and confessed in Mid March after 10 years married and 12+ together. I Plan "A" ed from day one though I didn't know about Plan A until end of April.

WW lives in an apartment and we have no children. The OM is married but also left his wife on DDay and they have no children.They were our friends.

OM told my WW that he needed space and wasn't sure about the affair relationship at the end of May. At that time my wife went no-contact on me and has remained that way for eight weeks now. We did have a brief conversation 2 weeks ago when she picked up some mail I left for her in the mail box. Felt great.

We exchanged some emails today as you read and I just got another one from WW telling me "that nothing has changed in the past 8 weeks" (how could it she's no-contacted me and been seeing him)"she can't make me happy" and that "she's beginning to feel less stress now that she's on her own and I need find happiness."

She's telling me she feels less stress with me out of her life and OM in it. She obviously doesn't need anything I can give her.

this kills as she just seems to have given up on us without saying what went wrong. Cutting her loses and moving on.

gg007:

"OM told my WW that he needed space"

If I could have a nickle for every time an OP or WS says this, I could afford the launch vehicle 2 put them all in orbit where they could get all the damned space they could possibly desire! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Sorry, I digress.

I would suggest keeping on keeping on - plan A remotely. Heck, MM, even you did this for a while. I wouldn't ask anymore questions about the OM, though. Pretend he doesn't exist and someday he'll follow through and stop existing - for you at least. Try not 2 say things 2 your W on the rare occasions that you do talk, that would drive her away or put her on the defensive, okay?

-ol' 2long
-2long.

thanks 2long,

I plan on continuing Plan A when she allows it for a little while longer.

Get this for more confussion,

After I get WW last email explaining nothings changed, I need to be happy etc, etc (Which is the last contact I expect for a very long time as she still has me in no-contact) I get one last email suggesting that we could have a coffee tonight if she's not to beat from work.

I said Ok and I'm waitng for her call to confirm.

gg:

Swing by the flower shop on your way over!!!!!!!!!!!

Go for it dude unit! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Little things like that always help.

♥2long

well we met for drinks and had some good conversation. But in the end nothing has really changed.

I guess I'm not the one anymore. This hurts so much. She seems so comfortable with her new life and decission to live it without me.

I think it may be time for me to move on myself.