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Where is my question how do i go about a plan B/
we are divorsed for 5 months. She came back moved in ,and when withdrew hit went back to BF. She told me all the stuff she couldn't doit blieblie
She is looking for a place but cant move out right now. She isnot even hidding seeing BF.
help? We had two kids that is the reasome to try
ages 3&5.
<small>[ August 11, 2003, 07:04 PM: Message edited by: bullet418 ]</small>
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Bullet:
Hm... you're divorced, so she's not your responsibility, right? Why doesn't she move in with her boyfriend? Family?
It might help knowing a little bit more about your story.
take care,
-2long
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I know what you mean but we have two kids
She has come out of the fog befor. I think it can happen agin.
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bullet: Quite frankly, if she has come out of the fog before, she never really came out of the fog. Have you 2 considered counseling? Really good counseling? I recommend the Harleys. Check out the website for the phone number 2 call. They seem expensive, but they're very efficient! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> -2long
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Yes I have counseled with Dr. Harley.
But she told me no way that she does not want to be with me.And she thinks it wont work.
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bullet:
How do YOU feel about it? Are you okay with her being out of your life? If she doesn't believe it will work, why is she with you?
She believes it will work, even if she doesn't say so. But she's still having her A, and doesn't want 2 give that up.
Since you're DV'd, though, the "simplest" thing 2 do would be 2 ask her 2 move out and figure out for herself, on her own, what she wants.
And YOU need 2 figure out what you want. Who you want in your life. If it's her, then you have work 2 do. If it's not her, then you have work 2 do.
all my best,
-2long
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I'm guessing she didn't come out of the fog while she was living there.
You can offer her terms to live there...N/C, accountability, working on getting back together, otherwise it's too confusing for the children and for you. If she's not willing to do that...then out she goes, she can go to a shelter or a hotel, she has friends. She won't wake up until she has realized what she's given up...she can't do that living with you.
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