Can someone please, please give me your advice! My husband is not acting remorseful for what happened a little over a month ago. Of course he only admits that he was with her for hours and said they kissed and talked only. I know he had sex with her and guess he doesn't need to admit it to me for me to know for sure! His attitude is going back and forth on being kind of nice, then a real creep! He has been withholding affection (use to be VERY affectionate), cold, distant and very grouchy! He is also grouchy with our kids to the point that they are asking what is wrong with him. He comes and goes as he pleases and if I ask him where or what he is doing, he tells me don't worry about it, you worry about you and I will worry about me. He is drinking a lot and also staying out! He is verbally abusive to me and has always been, I just realized this about a year ago. We have just moved and we are trying to fix up our other house to get it ready to sell. So, he goes over there and crashes at night (twice now since the affair) without calling me or anything. He is still not home and it is 5:30 in the morning. So, I called him and asked him where he is, he says he is at his co-workers (his truck is there, I drove by) I asked him if he had been there all night. He stated that he went in to work for awhile (of course I can not prove this) because we had a power outage. He didn't call me all night and he just leaves without saying anything to me. He told me he wants to be by himself (about a week ago) and said this right after he was with her! I am depressed, hurt and angry all in one day. I don't think I can take much more of this. It hurts to be without him (I miss him like crazy when he is gone for even a night), but this is really hurting me. I am being nice to him, trying to do plan A. Oh and he acts like he hates it here at home and he acts like he hates all of us, including his kids! Should I just let him do this? Or should I tell him to get out? I hesitate because I don't work and I think he will be a real mean jerk when it comes down to it. I know he wont let the bills go for now, I think he will pay them. I feel like packing his clothes right this minute and setting the bag in his truck. Right or wrong, I don't know! Advice, please!
Should I tell him to go (I think he wants too) or should I stay here and take his crap? He won't talk to me about what happened that night. He gets angry, starts yelling LOUDLY at me and threatens to go to the other house to sleep. Help!!!
