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Hi all-
Much thanks goes out to all who have slapped me with the MB 2x4's --I have taken all of your advise to heart and implemented it to a "T"
I have been aloof, kind, distant...basically keeping myself out of situations that could cause pain, anger etc...I have even dated at Pep's request. I have been with my children the "majority" of the time and my life has really gotten better. Thanks for the good advise.
My anxiety level is alot lower and just feel better in general.
But my question is WHY IN THE SAM HELL does this make my ex SO FREAKING ANGRY. I mean to the point of me thinking WOW she's really mad.
I mean she has everything she wants now:
> Doesn't have to work her Alimony is in excess of what it takes NOT to have a job
> Shes Rid of me
> She has her freedom to find "Mr Right" or "Mr right Now"
With all of this, why the anger?
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"With all of this, why the anger?"</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You took away her royal highness's cake, you knave! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
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I'm hearing that my WW affair partner is going through much of the same. I get this from OM wife. My WW can't and won't talk to me.
The marriage problems were both partners responsability.
The Affair wasn't your choice, you didn't tell your spouse to go have an affair. It was her/his decission and as such they have to carry the biggest load for the pain and suffering.
Anyway who else can the WS vent to. Not the affair partner. And family and friends of the marriage are not likely to be to sympathetic. SO that leaves us the BS, the same person for years who has been there to support the WS in our marriages.
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You guys have been SO VERY RIGHT, I finally chose to take myself out of the insanity and boy do I feel better.
2-3 short weeks ago I would have asked my ex-wife (who has changed back to her maiden name) and did it in a very ugly way
"Gee honey why are you wearing your wedding ring today" (Yesterday)
And after all of your advise I chose to ignore it and it felt good.
Wearing your wedding ring 4 months after divorce and 1 year of seperation.
Whew! And you guys think I'm the weird one?
Seriously, you all have helped me a bunch
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