Ok, question.

I don't know if you all know my story. But for any of you that do or even if you don't, I have a question.

Is it possible for the BS to win back the WS? Or to fall in love with the BS all over agian even when he's still with the OW and living with her?

The reason I'm asking is b/c for about 3 months my WH and I have been starting to develope a nice and friendly relationship. I'm no longer angry and I know that I've forgiven him.

I also know that as we've been developing a 'new' relationship, his relationship with the OW is starting to sour. I know that he is constantly fighting with her and she is doing some major love busting. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

And my WH and I just recently had a serious talk about US and working things out. I haven't been initiating the talks, it's all been him.

BUT..... he's still living with the OW. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

So is it possible? Can he be coming out of the fog SLOWLY?

I'm confused! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> Can anyone help?

I don't know if I can help. My WW left on DDay to work on her affair. Though the OM (married) hasn't moved in they have there own places.

I think your husband my be seeing the light. BUT and this is a big BUT don't get your hopes up. Stay level. He may just be sticking his head out a little.

Your Plan A sounds like it may be working keep it up.

Best of Luck

STBXwife, of course, it's possible. He is seeing the end coming if your name is correct. Soon to be X?
Do yourself a favor and don't let him take you for granted! Even if the divorce becomes final.
I'd say the ball is in your court and you should hold onto it.
Go slow, don't be over eager, and let him do the winning back if that is what he's trying.
As long as he's still with OW, I'd count him gone!
And don't forget to move forward with your life in meantime.
Meet a lot of new people, go out, have fun. You may just find you don't want him back. I think a lot of BW's or BH's don't recognize that rather than truly loving and wanting this person back in their life, it's a contest to win them back for selfesteem purposes.
Analyze what you'd have if you did win him back.
He'd have to change 180 to even deserve you.
LouLou

Possible? Sure!

You won him over the first time.
Why not again.

I know exactly how you feel. I am feeling as if my H is "sticking his head out" a bit also, but unfortunately, he is still with OW. I know he loves me and I know what you mean about him initiating the "working things out" conversations. I still try not to get my hopes up. I won't be satisfied with it until I know that he has broken his A off with her completely. So, I just continue to be friendly with him, and also live my own life. He has to be the one to make this work, I can only hope he sees the light...and if he doesn't, then I can say that I am a better person for overcoming this battle with a new perspective on who I am.

Take care, and God bless.

Yes, it can be done,,,
All it reguires is an *open mind!*
Being in love is a choice, we have more power to make that choice if we root ourself in
the present. If one gives with an open heart, and he or she gives to you, it won't be
difficult to fall back in love- feelings of love or in love fluctuate in all relationships. They
come and they go. A marriage that lasts over time is dependent upon loving, not
necassarily being *in love* The same choice to hate, and or resent, primarily is due
because one focuses on just the negative.
Marriages, as do any relationships require a lot of forgetting and firgiving!!!
Marriages should be 100% to 100%.
Its also so normal to at times to think one even hates their *choosen* spouse!

It is Gods will that all marriages be reconcilied, *that none shall parish*

*the choices we make, dictate the life we lead*

Thanks everyone for you replies.