I am so sad right now. My wife and I have been separated for several months because of a couple of EA's that we both had with other people during the last year and a half. I moved out of the house after I found out about hers hoping that it would somehow make our feelings stronger for eachother. It made us stronger as individuals but not as a couple.

I know she doesn't love me right now. I see it in her eyes, her words and her actions. It's come to the point where I resent her for not caring about me and I'm afraid that she will never feel the way she used to about me. We have had some obstacles in our marriage as far as health and family influence and we're working on fixing them. One of the things we always talked about was moving out of our house and finding a more suitable place to live. Well, we're in the process of doing that but not together. It is so hard to leave our home behind and yet it seems like we have to take some kind of action to get past this limbo.

She's living in the house now while I'm in an apartment. She feels trapped because everything in there is a reminder of what she likes to refer to as the "Sham that was our marriage." I'm dying inside because I feel like I'm responsible for her having no more feelings left for me.

I want so badly for us to be happy together again. It's strange that for all this time I thought she had to be having an affair, because how else could she not want to be with me. But I think I was just hoping that would be true to make me feel better. I've been doing Plan A and I thought we were making progress but things seemed forced an unnatural between us. Now, I'm unstable again asking her questions that she doesn't know the answers to. Like how can I get her to love me again.

You cannot get anyone to love you. You need to talk things out with her and make mutual decisions. If the decisions cannot be mutual, then you will have to make your own. Do not be afraid. It is far better to end it than to stay in limbo. You are not a victim.