I resent a Plan B letter last night to my WW who is recouping from surgery, hoping that she will read it. My D told me the first one I hand delivered is still sitting where I left it almost 2 months ago. It wan't in an envelope so I don't know if WW read it or not. Maybe she didn't care and/or is too lazy.

That started me thinking. If a Plan B letter is so important to our future, I wonder if it would be worth it to buy a cheap cassette recorder and tape the Plan B and then send the recorder with tape installed to WS. I taped a MC session and listen to it over and over, but rarely do I keep going back to written material once I have read it. Some times I just gloss over written material. At this time, our marriage is only important to me, not her.

What do you think about taping? Radio Shack has small portable records for about 30 - 40 bucks. Probably dicount stores for even less.

Grrrr, 2 months is a long time to wait for an answer, or something.

Perhaps resending the letter isn't the option. By sending a tape and recorder, it's like replaying it over again.

Is WS the type of person that doesn't read mail?
I'll bet shr read it, and is now thinking about her respnse. I'm thinking by resending the letter again and again it makes you seem desperate.

Perhaps after her surgery a visit would suffice. Ask her how she's doing, tell her you're worried about her.

In the same visit, or at another time, tell her you're sorry you resent the Plan B letter you didn't think she got the original. Ask her if she has any questions about it. And then leave it at that...

Has it been your practice to keep on about something until you are satisfied (I know I do, and it has been a MAJOR lovebuster for our M).

Grrrr, 2 months is a long time to wait for an answer, or something.

Perhaps resending the letter isn't the option. By sending a tape and recorder, it's like replaying it over again.

Is WS the type of person that doesn't read mail?
I'll bet shr read it, and is now thinking about her respnse. I'm thinking by resending the letter again and again it makes you seem desperate.

Perhaps after her surgery a visit would suffice. Ask her how she's doing, tell her you're worried about her.

In the same visit, or at another time, tell her you're sorry you resent the Plan B letter you didn't think she got the original. Ask her if she has any questions about it. And then leave it at that...

Has it been your practice to keep on about something until you are satisfied? (I know I do, and it has been a MAJOR lovebuster for our M).

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by StillHereMakingIt:
<strong>Grrrr, 2 months is a long time to wait for an answer, or something.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I wasn't really expecting a response. I know some people get a reaction right away, but my W is happy about it. She gets to spend more time with OM.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong> Perhaps resending the letter isn't the option. By sending a tape and recorder, it's like replaying it over again.

Is WS the type of person that doesn't read mail?
I'll bet shr read it, and is now thinking about her respnse. I'm thinking by resending the letter again and again it makes you seem desperate. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She reads mail, but I don't know if she reads mail from me. I am sorry that I resent the last one, because it does make you seem desperate. It also gives them more confidence to cake eat. They know you still want them and haven't moved on.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>In the same visit, or at another time, tell her you're sorry you resent the Plan B letter you didn't think she got the original. Ask her if she has any questions about it. And then leave it at that...</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That wouldn't work for me because I hand delivered the first Plan B letter to her personaly. She has never asked a question. It seem the less she sees of me the better she likes it.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Has it been your practice to keep on about something until you are satisfied? (I know I do, and it has been a MAJOR lovebuster for our M).
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, Yes, I feel good about something and then a flaw about it will become apparent after the fact and I will want to redo it or explain it but I know that she really doesn't want to hear it. Makes me feel weak and needy when I do that.

My H claimed that he did not read any of the cards or notes I sent him either. Guess what I found in his sock drawer one day last winter when he left me alone in the house? The cards and notes I'd sent him, OPENED, but hidden in the drawer. There is a chance that she has read it, but won't acknowledge it at this point.

Jen