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This is from a Christian group I receive devotionals from. Thought some might find it encouraging and helpful as we deal with so much anger/bitterness and hard feelings. If you are offended by the Christian content, Please believe this is in no way posted to offend others belief system. I'm simply sharing from my own faith. If you are offended by Christianity, pass over the post. LouLou

Be Encouraged Today. Your help is in the Lord. 9/18/03

There is so much power in the words we speak. There is so much good that can come out of the love we share. Use your words for good today. Let God's love pour out of you. Speak to edify and not to tear down. Love your enemies. Pray for them. Bring glory to God!!

But I tell you love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. If you love those who love you, what reward will your get? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. Matthew 5:44,46,48

God has given us a mind to think. He has given us a tongue to speak with. He has given us the ability to make decisions. So, why do we make the wrong decisions so many times? We need to start taking responsibility for our actions. It needs to start right now. It really bothers me to hear people curse each other out and speak of ways that they will retaliate with such hatred for a wrong that was done to them. We all get angry sometimes but what does our Lord tell us we should do? He wants us to love our enemies and pray for them. It's not always so easy is it, especially when our enemies have done things that are unimaginable? The Lord says "vengeance is mine." What exactly does that mean? It means that the Lord will protect His children and take care of those who have hurt us. Sometimes, He tests us by allowing things to happen just to see how we will react. Don't forget, He said He would never test us beyond what we can bare. And, don't think that anything ever goes unnoticed by our Father in heaven. He will punish those who do wrong to us even if we never see it in our life time. You can be assured the Lord will reward or punish each one of us as He sees fit. We will all stand before His judgement seat at the last and final judgement day. When anyone repents and asks Jesus for forgiveness, it is then and only then that our sins will be remembered no more. Praise God for that promise! Pray and ask God to help those who do not repent because the Lord will deal with the unrepentant heart of everyone.

Sometimes there will be those things or situations that are out of our control. But the decision to react accordingly is ultimately ours. The best quality of a person is the ability to humble themselves and not react with hatred or harsh words. By turning the other cheek, you can affect the way someone strikes back at you. You can set an example of God's love, mercy and forgiveness. You can imitate our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Very few people will actually admit when they have done you wrong. Very few parents will actually apologize to their children when they have wronged them. Very few spouses will apologize to their spouses when things are said out of anger. Most of us have said, "apologize for what" and walk away harboring anger in our heart. Most will just put on the sin of pride and wait for the other to take the first step, which might never come. So many times, we allow anger to put up a barrier between us and our children, allowing it to bring out the worst part in us. Stop it! Stop it now! It does no good! It does not bring glory to God! Stop allowing the hurt to continue! Stop allowing the unforgiving heart to take over! Let love cover the sin, anger, vengeance and hurt. God has given us all a mind to use for His glory. God has poured out His love, mercy and forgiveness on us. So, let's turn around and share what God has graced us with. Remember that loving someone is humbling yourself before them, time and time again. Make your heavenly Father proud to call you His child. Will you start making Him proud today?
Be Encouraged. (Jeanette)

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New Branch,

Thanks for sharing this..it is wonderful even if you are not Christian (I am). It just makes so much sense. I have been her at MB since April and my D-day was Feb 14,2003. To make a long story short. Me and WH are still living together while A is continuing. We will be seperating shortly, mostly for my sanity and protection. In the past few days I have shut down on M talk and OW talk, but today we had MC, so it comes to the fore front again. My point here is that WH the past few days has told me he feels as though he has no right to share his feelings with me or even tell me that he cares, after everything he has done and continues to do. I have tried to explain I need to hear these feelings and to tear down the walls. As usual I dont think I was getting my point across to WH, then this morning I see this wonderful post from you. Amazingly, it was exactly what I was trying to say to him. So I printed it out and used it as my inspiration to write WH a letter and I borrowed some quotes from it. You see I can much better express in writing and I know WH reads everything I give him more than once. I just gave it to him and I will wait to see if he has any thoughts on my letter. I wont hold my breath though, he usually doesnt respond to me, particularly at this point in our situation. At least I feel better knowing I was able to express it the way I wanted..with your help. Sorry to hi-jack..I just wanted you to know that you and this post made a difference in my day. Thank-you

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Lisa, you're not hijacking dear lady. I'm so happy someone found it encouraging and useful.
That's why I put it here in hopes of just this very thing.
I, too,find writing my H at times helped me. Alas, he most times took it as garbage.But he has finally come around to reading all the devotionals I get so I send them over to his email.
I made the disclaimer as I really got flamed on another site for putting anything with Christian content. Sad! As a Christian, I cannot deny Christ or keep silent. So I simply warn ahead of time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Let me know how H reacts to your letter.
Love and God bless, LouLou


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