He was supposed to be home by 7pm. Didn't make it. I had to go pick him up after I dropped off the kids at church. By the time I got him it was 8:15, we only have until 9pm.

I dressed nice, nothing too dressy, I knew he'd have on his work clothes.

He got in the van and had a bag in his hand.

I said where do you want to eat..he says someplace cheap, really cheap. So being the wonderful understanding wife that I am <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I said, "Well what's in the bag?" he say, "food from chilis and a piece of pizza they gave me and brother".

I said well you have a drink, why don't you run into gas station and grab me one, and we'll eat this..is it hot? he says yeah it was just made.

So we pull off into the parking lot of Walmart, in the far front where there are no cars, only lots of beautiful trees and eat our dinner and talk and laugh like idiots.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

We talked about absolutely nothing...it was great.

We went for the big money afterwards and got a hersey pie from Burger King.....last of the big spenders huh? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

It was ssssssoooo nice and while we were eating out pie (we got one and split it so the whole date costs less then $3)

I said "well I guess I got all dressed up for nothing..." he looks a little leary..."I guess I shaved really good for no reason" he laughes and says "well you can show me the rest later"...hehehe

It was so much fun, teasing and messing with him....I love him so much and it was just so nice to be with him and enjoy it. Nothing heavy and weird. Just be together..I wish I could make this feeling last forever.

Now he's on the couch with the kids and watching tv. IN a few minutes we are going to go upstairs and ....well none of your business <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So far so good huh???

I'm gonna do this A thing if it kills me (plan a not affair)....

no DJ
no AO
protection and time together

did I miss anything???

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I'm gonna do this A thing if it kills me (plan a not affair)....

no DJ
no AO
protection and time together

did I miss anything???
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Great start. Keep it up. Have you talked to H about the Plan A concept. Is he open to doing a Plan A of his own? With both of you putting your best foot forward all worries of the OW should hopefully soon disappear.

Try not to let minor lapses like the bday call or a few minutes of unchaperoned time set you back. Those are areas where he can start to earn your trust in him back.

ba109

See having fun isn't so hard after all......well at least the parts that didn't go upstairs to be none of my business! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Sounds like one of our cheap dates! I'm happy for you!

Stillwed

ba109,

He says he is open to Plan A, but he really doesn't know enough to really do it right. Maybe I can get him to read it again. It's where we always run into problems. I do it and he thinks he does it, I get angry and frustrated and then the fun starts... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

sdrf,

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> oh yeah, last night and this morning... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

stillwed,

Yeah I've been trying not to pressure him to much about money, he's gone from making 84k a year to making around 40k. He's so stressed about the finances, it's his own fault, but that doesn't make it any easier.

So I'm gonna come in here ever day and you all let me know how I'm doing in the Plan A department...maybe then I can see where I'm making mistakes....

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Margue,
I'm having difficulty following your story.
Just a suggestion:
Keep posting on the same thread to avoid numerous new threads.
Just go to the first post of your thread and click on the paper and pencil idex to edit and you can change the title of your thread to update.
That way we can easily read earlier posts on the same thread to follow your situation.

Hey Shugah,

I'll do that!!! great idea..so consider this one dead and I'll answer the one above.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

The one about the newest development, the prayer cloth ...can't remember the title now.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />