How long can someone ignore the fact that their SO is just an object in their life. Not a team player or involved in any way with them personally?

He is scheduling more and more time away from me. He doesn't talk about us, ever. He spends all his time working, working with the dogs, the yard, and anything else he can find to keep his distance.

He's finding more ways to be away from home on work related issues every weekend. He doesn't even have the vocabulary that includes "US"!! What is Up with this?? He's driving me NUTS, I tell you, absolutly NUTS!

I want a relationship. I can't work with this. He plans more and more time away every week. I am so frustrated with this, I don't know what to do. I feel like telling him to just leave. I've never been with someone like this. Never had someone in my life that seems so disconnected to me. Someone, Please respond. HELP!

Are you married yet? I read a couple of your posts and it appears that this is your fiance? If so, why would you consider him to be marriage material with all these problems? You surely don't think you can change him, do you?

I can assure you that any problems now will only be magnified 1000% after you are married.

My H told me that, when he had an A, the impact on me was "irrelevant." He didn't do it to hurt me. He didn't even think about how it would impact me.

All his free time was away from the family. Imagine taking four young children (oldest was 7) to the Minnesota Zoo on Father's Day morning and seeing all these young families out enjoying a beautiful Sunday morning and zoo volunteers handing out carnations to the fathers.... and your children's father is off golfing because, after all, it's Father's Day and this is the best gift he could have for Father's Day.

I remember that day well. We were already arguing about Sophia, although the affair hadn't started yet. I was hurt that we were at the zoo without him, but who was I to tell him what to do?

Just two weeks ago, my H was coming home from a week-long business trip and I asked the four year old daughter (his favorite child) who's coming home tonight? Her reply was "I don't know." I then asked, "Who's missing?" She said, "I don't know." When I told her that Daddy was coming home, she was happy, but she hadn't missed him.

If your are not married and your fiance is treating you this way, wait until marriage. My H was the nicest guy until dinner on the day we married. He seems to think commitment means "you're stuck with me no matter how badly I treat you." Wait until you have four sets of eyes watching how badly you are treated.

MOVE ON and thank God you didn't marry this guy.

<small>[ September 27, 2003, 09:17 PM: Message edited by: broken heart and arm ]</small>