</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by hopeandfaith:
<strong> They could talk for hours about anything, she is a very creative writer and very knowledgeable, with special interest in baseball and music.I have a hard time with him giving me undivided attention when I am talking to him but she didn't. He just found her very interesting. Of course it is easy to have undivided attention reading emails and talking on the phone. I am jealous that OW could sweep him off his feet. I wanted to be the only one that could do that. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"></font>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Become knowledgable. - Read, listen to talk radio, take a class, start a new (joint?) hobby... do things that expand your horizons.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Learn how to communicate effectively. - People communicate in different ways so learn how to speak so that he will hear you. I found personality typing to be extremely useful in this area.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Practice, practice, practice. - Conversation is a skill.</font></li>
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"I have a hard time with him giving me undivided attention when I am talking to him but she didn't."and
"Through this affair he has realized that the OW was able to intellectual stimulate him which he feels he needs in his life."Sounds like he isn't giving you the opportunity to fulfill his EN (Conversation). While it's great that you now know one of his important ENs and you are learning how to fulfill it...
HE needs to give YOU his undivided attention so that YOU can fulfill that need. Otherwise he's shooting himself in the foot because not even the world's most witty person is an interesting conversationalist if he isn't listening.
PS... You might find the "EN Conversation: How to talk to a bar clam" link in my sig interesting.