We've had weekly MC since the beginning of September.

The MC had each of us write up our vision of a happy M, understand our spouse's vision, and give concerns and agreement. I gave a revision to mine, and the MC said it looks like we are close enough that we could create a common vision and work towards it.

However, right now, my H says he isn't sure he is willing to work on the M. He isn't sure what he wants. The MC suggested we consider separation. She asked that, for next week, we write up a list of positives and negatives for separation.