Pardon me while I get this out. I am hurt, I am angry and I am urinated off !

Bozo is driving me smooth up the wall. First there is the no sex thing. For some reason I am now lucky to get it one every month or two. This bothers me. I feel rejected, not good enough, ugly and hurt. This has been going on for a long time. I am just not sure how much more of it I can take I just want to scream !

So I wrote him a very nice, calm supportive letter about this and asked what if anything I could do to interest him in making love with me again. He hasn't even read the frigging thing !

Now for the third night in a row he is sleeping on the couch.

Anything I ask him to do now he ignores. I needed to do some laundry and I thought I was going to have to stay with my Mom since she is ill. So I gathered up the laundry and put it in the car, Mom said she didn't need me to stay so we put the laundry back in the car and came home. Sunday I ask him to bring the clothes up and give me some money so I can take them to the complex laundry room and wash them. He said ok. Monday afternoon I asked again, same answer. Tuesday the same.
Wensday I actually got on my knees and BEGGED, that worked.

Never mind the flipping box of newspaper I've asked him every weekend for 3 months to get rid of that I am looking at as I type. I can't lift it, the wound from a surgery I had a year ago is still not totally healed and when I tried to lift it the wound tore a bit and bled.

He buys cigarettes for him on the way home from work but hasn't picked me up any.

Does he hate me or what ? Sorry, crying too hard.

I'm going to bed, watching sleeping on the couch is just causing me more pain.

I swear if I had not taken those vows .....

Hi Deb,

It has been a while since I've heard from you. Sorry to hear you are still in turmoil.

Hm..... for me I had to learn to do less and put the WS in the position to do more.

U know me, I had to even resort to talking to the wall and only then he answered. Imagine that!.

Have you talked with Steve, Jennifer or Cerri?

L.

Hi Orchid,

Thanks for taking the time to read and post.
I haven't to Jennifer, Steve or Cerri. There is no way I could afford to, bozo was out of work for nine out of the last 12 months. we are just now making a dent in getting our heads above water.

I was just having a meltdown last night, stuffing too much stuff for far too long because I did not want to pressure, or push him about anything when he was out of work. But these problems started to surface long before he was laid off.

And I knew for a fact that if I didn't spew somewhere I would have gone off like a bomb on top of his sleeping head. And THAT would have led to something really really ugly.

Does you church has a R-Conselor ?. In mine we have a marriage conseling ministry <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> and I introduced R-pastor to MB <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . Check your other local church too.
-rh-

I am responding to your story by comparing it to mine.

I got upset with my H about his talk about another woman -- before I learned that it was an A. After the A came to light, I asked, "Did you tell me about OW to torment me?" His answer was blunt: "You weren't relevant enough to my thoughts for me to torment you."

Is it possible that your H just plain doesn't care? And your anger is your way to get your H to understand how much you are upset? If he doesn't care, then your anger will simply be an excuse for him.