i am about 80-85% positive that my H has cheated on me twice.

he travels a lot, sometimes for extensive periods. and there are two trips that i have questions about...

i'm not sure if i should address the situation w/ my H, because he is a very GOOD liar. i know that he will just lie to me. i don't know if it would do any good to bring up my suspicion unless i could provide some kind of tangible "evidence". this would be very difficult to get, considering that he has not had an "affair" while he is home.

i'm not too sure that i even care (i don't feel hurt). i know that probably sounds bad, but the idea of him having sex w/ an anonymous woman isn't so overwhelming that i would consider leaving him. i have no thoughts of doing so. i might feel different if i knew that he was connected emotionally w/ the "OW". but i do not think that is the case. i think that he cheated on me purely out of being away, being horny and feeling "entitled".

our relationship appears to be "fine". we had some tough times after the birth of our daughter, but we seem to have managed to work-through that... our future looks great... we're communicating well... i "feel" his love for me- i have no doubts that he loves me.

i'm wondering if there is any benefit in "rocking-the-boat"? especially, if one can't even say positively that the situation even happenned.

Hi and welcome to MB,

Whether there is an A or not, you need to do some reading.

Start with the concepts section above. Prinit out the EN questionnaire and take it as yourself then as your H.

Read the book: His Needs/Her Needs.

If you think there is an A, then also read Surviving an Affair.

Get to a doctor for anti-deps and possibly an STD checkup. Don't fret the GYN's are very familar with our situations and can be a good support source.

Come back and let us know how you are doing.

L.

duplicate post.

<small>[ October 31, 2003, 12:59 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>