I've been married for nearly 14 years and yet I've continued a LDR with a woman I met at military school some 15 years ago...do you see the picture?

I have 2 daughters with my wife who is a wonderful mother! But lately I've felt this compulsion to be with my LD lover more than I ever have...But we both know the damage we would cause if our paths crossed again.

My head is spinning like a top and my heart is empty...I know I shouldn't entertain this fantasy but this LDR/LTR has endured this much time that it has consumed me to the point that i'm a click away from buying my plane ticket!

I don't know what to do?

<small>[ November 04, 2003, 09:32 AM: Message edited by: DGNEYES.6 ]</small>

As hard as this may be for you to hear, your selfish and thoughtless actions will not only hurt your W, your D's, but eventually YOU as well. I invite you to read as many stories on this and other forums to see for yourself, the untold devastation that affairs have on couples and their families. There is still time for you to prevent the devastation you are contemplating to subject your W and children, END ALL CONTACT WITH THE OW NOW! and after some time passes you will be a much happier man for doing so.

Here's the hard truth. You're having an EA (Emotional Affair) and it's already hurting your marriage. You're wrapped up in a fantasy of what it would be like with her. It's a wonderful fantasy for you. In your imagination, I'm sure that her legs are always shaved, she never farts or snores in her sleep, her house is always perfect, she's never moody, you're always charming, you spend romantic evenings together every night, there are never any financial problems, you never argue, she hasn't really aged in the last 15 years, etc.

In reality, going to her would ruin everything you've worked for in your marriage. Your wife and children would be in incredible pain. You'd be dealing with tons of guilt. OW (Other Woman) would not be patient or understanding about the situation. Your finances would be a mess. And eventually the fantasy would be shattered and you'd have neither your marriage or OW.

Start studying up. Read Surviving and Affair, Torn Asunder, and some of the other great affair books. Start romancing your wife the way you'd like to romance OW. Go to counseling and figure out why you want to escape from reality so badly. And love your wife and kids, because they're the ones who love you even during the rough times. Stop relying on OW to meet your emotional needs.

Post more here and let us know how you're handling things.

What F-ing game are you playing catch22222?

You know "back" buttons on browsers are a wonderful invention and I happen to be reading your catch2222 thread and went to post ot it when I notice you deleted it. So I appended it to my response.

What? Forget which account you were on?

what catch222 said on Path to New Life...A question for ladies
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I have 2 teenage boys (16 & 14) from first marriage (none, thankfully with 2nd x) every weekend. They are very responsible and self sufficient . . . </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Then you became DGNEYES.6 on your own thread. (post #12)

What catch22222/DGNEYES.6 said on this thread:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I have 2 daughters with my wife who is a wonderful mother! But lately I've felt this compulsion to be with my LD lover more than I ever have...But we both know the damage we would cause if our paths crossed again.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So who are you and which story is real?

Oh forget it -- I'm not playing your game and hopefully other MBers won't either!

way2

P.S. I've noticed you posted your catch22222 thread on Pre-marriage & The Early Years no bites on your thread yet.. .hopefully no one there will be taken in either.