Just a quick update.

Well having spent the past 5 months or so in my WW no-contact zone. (we talked 4 times) my ww called me (4 contact) out of the blue.

No it's not what your all thinking she hasn't made a break through but I think you will all love this on some level.

A few weeks ago i began to make the OM life difficult. Basicly I had his assets tied up so he can't get to his share of his marital assets.

Now the following conversation was all very calm on both sides.

So my WW calls and asks me to explain what I'm doing and why. Of course I told her that it has nothing to do with her and OM can explain everything. Then a long silence.

WW tells me she just can't understand where I'm comming from and that my actions make change her feelings towards me. I calmly respond and say that since she left i don't think I need to explain my actions to her and that she made it very clear to me how through her actions how she feels about me. Then a long silence.

WW tells me that I have no position and that our marriage was over years ago so why can't I just move on. I calmly respond and say that I believe my positon is strong but again it doesn't involve her that it's between OM and myself and that i find it interesting that she's calling on behalf of her boyfriend to ask me not to distrupt his life. If our marriage was over years ago why didn't she leave. Then a long silence.

WW then repeats that our marriage was over, we tried and to much time has past for her. I calmly ask how we tried? WW says we talked about our problems. I said I disagreed and asked what we did and what she thinks she told me was wrong, what did I do that was wrong. Then more silence.

I then told her that if she was so happy and I along with our marriage was so bad then she should just go have her lawyer send me the divorce papers and she can move on. WW says we have a few months before that needs to be done. I respond that if we both agree we can move forward right now. Again long silance.

WW moves conversation into another direction so I suggest that all we are doing is going in cirlces and I think I should go.

Oh ya just before I hung up I told my WW that regardless of our marriage she should know that OM has been betraying her trust unless it's ok that he's had complete contact with his wife since the day he walked out. OM has fliped the roll of the woman in his life.

I wished her a good week and told her I care for her and to be carefull and open her eyes or else she was going to experiance the same thing I've been going though.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> That was great. Congratulations!

Say good luck.I sure hope that you are sure of yourself of what you want in the end.If you have read the Book surving an affair that Dr. Harley's wrote I see you in Jon's shoes in the book.Say the old saying I'm sure you've heard it goes something like this"If you love something set it free,If it comes back to you its yours if it doesnt It never was".Well I believe in that to a certain exstent.I take it you know your W has made a very bad decison and chose the wrong guy as with path.If only we still lived in the roman yrs where sex and affairs were normal daily activity and morals didn'nt exist would we be able to live with deception we incure in todays society.Say I sure hope you W gets it all out of her system before it to late and realizes that if she don'nt reach for you from out on that limb shes on that if she waits to long you might not be that soft spot she thinks shes going to land.Say take this time to really realize whats best for you in the long run for either way it may go, look far far down the road as you can asking yourself "what if",keeping her best interest in mind for this you are being a good person that even she can't dissolve.Good luck

GG:

Well, that was certainly interesting. You got my curiosity up, though. You don't have 2 answer, but I do wonder how it is that you can do anything about OM's assets.

Just be careful. Don't be vengeful. Be just. Be kind. Give plan B more time.

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