Sarah,

You asked for my first post. I suspect you will be disappointed. You can find such things by using the ID# of a poster. In my case you would have to go to the "read only" sections. In those days MB was not divided up into categories. Just one discussion forum. Here it is JL's First

Hope it satisfies your curiosity. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

God Bless,

JL

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Just Learning:
<strong>You asked for my first post. I suspect you will be disappointed.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">na wa oooooooo!!!

oaktown...

Cool, JL. You hit the ground running, huh?

For all others, I am proud to say I've shared bird bath Margaritas with JL - IN THE FLESH!!!

But get this - I actually sat with JL and SKM at the same table at the same time. WOO HOO! Talk about an MB rare moment! JL, SKM, and WAT - June, 2001. (I was the neophyte.)

So, JL, when ya coming back east?

Dear JL.
After reading your first post, I see you were giving good advice way back in Sept of 1999!

What I would like to know is YOUR STORY???
Have you had any outstanding marital difficulties?
I don't know if you have had an unfaithful wife; (I just can't even imagine that you have been an unfaithful husband, just don't think so!)or if you just have this special wisdom like Solomon!

Probably the others here already know YOUR STORY but I don't and I would like to know.
You absolutely do have a special gift in being a great counselor for people with troubled marriages.
Sincerely, Sarah <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Dave,

I'll wait until the snows are deep, say Jan, or Feb. But, I will be back. I'll get ahold of you. I haven't talked to SKM in a long time, but I bet her little one is fully mobile now and keeping her and her H very very busy. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good to hear from you and I am glad your GF is keeping you out of trouble.

JL

Sarah,

Some one asked for my story about 2-3 years ago. It was that Nosey Susan <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I'll have to see if I can find it.

As for your basic question, I am neither a WS nor a BS. I stumbled in here for different reasons in Feb of 99. To put it mildly it was an eye opener and the first and only chat sort of site I have ever visited.

I have learned so much it is hard to explain and I learned it from people such as yourself.

I was about your H's age and felt that my W didn't really care about me or the marriage. I was just a pay check. I learned that my perspective was WRONG, and how to change it and I did. I was wanting to see things the way I IMAGINED they should be. But, I was missing the reality, she did love me, she just didn't show it as I expected or fantasized about it.

So, you see I am no expert and that is why I offer suggestions rather than advice. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hope this helps.

God Bless,


JL