Just thought I would add that the movie "Phone Booth" also includes an A theme line. Just rented the movie this weekend and the back of the box mentions nothing about the A story line.

The WS gets caught big time in this movie. I wasn't as uncomfortable as my H was.

Even at 5 months since d-day, most any mention of an A makes me want to throw up.

SSS

Yeah, the A from Love Actually was pretty sad. All I could think of was - That poor lady, been there, done that.

I find that now I take offense to movies that portray A's lightly or give them glamour and don't totally strike them down.

We will forever have these scars marked upon our hearts and only time and God can lessen their reappearance.

I thought the nudity parts and sexual innuendo in the movie was more then just distasteful, it was totally uncalled for.

Thanks for the warning on Love Actually.

I'd also like to add a few other movies that upset me due to affair themes:
* "Beyond Borders"
* "Intolerable Cruelity"
* "It Runs in the Family"

I also get upset from songs that talk about infidelity. I never paid much attention to these themes before (someone else's problem), now I know the reality all to closely!

Perhaps as other movies come out we can be warned on this thread. I have been guilty of seeing movies with little info about them, a mistake I probably won't make again.

firefly

Why not just get up and leave? Many theater's managers will refund your money or let you see another movie.

I was actually contemplating seeing this, but then I read the review of it in a publication to which I subscribe (which pretty much said what you did about it; all of it comes from a questionable moral perspective), and was glad to save myself the money...

Ditto "The Cat in the Hat". Many questionable moral messages (as portrayed in the film) and some of it, I read, is just plain crude. Looking back to my impressions of the book, I remember feeling as a child, that there was something sinister about that cat. (He's an anarchist!)

It does pay to read a few reviews before you go see something, for those reasons, and for obvious reasons a good idea for someone to post warnings here.

I watched 'One Hour Photo' with Robin Williams last night.

He plays a man(Sy) obsessed with this family he gets to know by processing their family pictures.The husband(spoiler here) has an affair and so this guy(Sy),who is now really mad at the H for ruining the perfect image the family has,goes to the hotel where the H and the OW are and he terrorizes them while they are nude.Pretty intense but in a way I felt like,well,it's not so romantic now,is it? Just desserts.

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Thank you!! That is awesome that you are sharing that here.

I actually did not have to deal with adultery, but I watched the movie "Hope Floats" the other night. The last time I watched it was before my divorce. Well, now I am divorced, and not only that, but I am also more aware of the many lives touched by divorce and adultery (as a result of reading here and talking to others).

In that movie, the man has an affair and the thing that touched me the most was his daughter and a scence where she wants to be with him and he says that he has to start his new life and she is just SOBBING and crying. It made me cry. Also, just watching the main character and the depression she went through, etc.

I thought they portrayed adultery/divorce pretty negatively which was good but if I was someone recently affected by it, this would be a difficult movie to watch (simply because of the sadness of the daughter and wife). It is too sad. It was sad for me even simply becuase of my divorce. But I thought it was good they showed the daughter being so distraught because it really shows you how adultery/divorce touches not only the spouse but also the children... and very deeply.

There is one movie about adultery that is kind of an exception in many, many ways: A Walk On The Moon.

It's a fairly realistic treatment of the "issues" that can give rise to infidelity (chiefly, immaturity, vague sense of self), but there are many sweet moments in all of the relationships, (the mother-in-law is fantastic!!) all of the characters are very human, and it ends with reconciliation. There is a very palpable "coming together" instead of "flying apart" at the end.

But still, I don't think someone who isn't at least 2 years out of the affair crisis (no matter which side you're on) should seek this this movie out. (Unless you're a very big fan of Viggo Mortensen, which is the only reason I know about this movie.)