Hi all,

I did a half a-- job of Plan B back in mid August despite some of your advice out there. Sorry I didn't listen, it's my own fault.

However, even though WH and I are in the middle of our divorce proceedings (filed by Me when angry) I am ready to implement Plan B to its fullest extent starting this weekend when he picks up our kids for his weekend visitation.

I would like to know, should I or do I need to give/send WH a new PBL or give a copy of the first one with some changes to it? Or do I need to let him know at all that I'm going Plan B? He has read SAA back in July, worked on M for 5 days and then decided to move out.

He is currently living in a house he bought in Oct. and OW moved in w/WH and w/her 9y/o D back in mid October.

Also, any ideas on how to create the illusion of me getting on with my life with another person (not really) to WH w/o me talking to him during Plan B? I heard this approach or strategy has been useful/helpful in some peoples M's.

Thank you all so much. This time I believe I have the strength to adhere to the rules of the plan B.

Have a great day.
FF

I would give him a new Plan B letter. Don't do the illusion of having someone else thing. That's what I did - told H's sister about meeting a guy I used to date at store. Went over to his house - he has a beautiful house on a couple of acres of avocado grove overlooking the whole valley. Well the whole thing backfired - H contacted me and said he cannot trust me, I'm doing same thing as he is, etc. Relationship with my ex friend went nowhere - I felt extremely uncomfortable and ill at ease, just being in his house and talking to him. Also it was very unfair to him. I felt like I was using him to make myself feel better. All it did was make my H feel justified to have OW move in with him. During this time, move on with your life in other areas, but not by inventing competition for your H.

Thanks believer,

I certainly have had enough things backfire that I dont need anymore. I would not feel very comfortable doing that anyway.

For a sneak peek at a draft of my new PBL, go to the thread, Blondblossom, Dazedblonde, Faith1960..please come here...

Under todays date, there the letter is. I will be changing the last part (couple sentences) to be stronger stated as dazed blonde suggested.

Thanks again.
FF

FF