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I've noticed something i don't really mind, but in some ways annoys me to some extent. I've seen this with older women and also with my W. Most women when they are first married are very attenative to the husbands wishes and ideas. However, as time goes by and the couple ages, why is it the W not only disagrees with the H more , but seems to go out of her way at times to say the exact opposite of his thoughts and ideas.
I've seen this many times. Is it the man gets dumber and the W smarter with age? Or do the women do this to get under the skin of the spouse.
Maybe its just a coming of age thing for women. But it can be a major LB. Just looking for a response. I'am curious what goes on in the mind of the typical midlife women. (the world may never know).
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My response is that it's a matter of perspective. Below, I took what you wrote and made it from a female perspective: I've seen this with older men and also with my H. Most men when they are first married are very attentive to the wife's wishes and ideas. However, as time goes by and the couple ages, why is it the H not only disagrees with the W more, but seems to go out of his way at times to say the exact opposite of her thoughts and ideas? However, many women here would say that we just get smarter with age <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by wokeup: <strong> why is it the W not only disagrees with the H more , but seems to go out of her way at times to say the exact opposite of his thoughts and ideas. I've seen this many times. Is it the man gets dumber and the W smarter with age? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here is what it is. We know up front that men can't say or do anything right but we just tolerate it better early on. After a few years, our patience wears thin. So, its not that men grow dumber but that we grow more impatient as we age. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Mel<----------------running for cover!!
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No that's not it at all. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> It's because early on in a marriage women still think they can change their man into the image that they desire <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ....as time goes on and they have completely failed to affect whatever change they had in mind they get very angry and hostile <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> . The reality is that they should have been happy with the true man that they married or they never should have married in the first place. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> cwmac <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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you people are tough! I just don't get it. How can such a sweet person, become a tiger. This is totally out of character for my W. I can only cough it up to menopause. (Us men only have one mood each month) only kidding. Seriously, i'am married 20years and in the last 3 years have seen a more changed attitude then ever. There is no real reason for it really. I'am a good guy (i do wash, dishes,ironing, cook and toilets) for real.
W seems to have an "i don't care about anything attitude" Including what i think. At times I see two personalitys. I know she is not having an A for sure. But for the life of me i cannot figure out what makes women tick. signed; dazed and confused....
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cwmac wrote: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's because early on in a marriage women still think they can change their man into the image that they desire </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Excuse me? We marry you boys in order to civilize you and teach you some manners. That is our mission, it is our life. You will change. And you can do it the easy way or the hard way. Don't make us get rough. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <small>[ December 11, 2003, 07:46 PM: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</small>
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you get rough all right, but you don't tell us the rules have changed. What happens when the man gives the shirt off his back for years,for his wife. Always puts her first before himself, and creates a w that is spoiled. She has always been treated like a queen. always given love and support, and kept.
I know you can do too much for a person and i believe ruin them to a degree. After a while the man starts to feel taken for granted. I just feel the women should stop once in a while and see just how good some of you have it.
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wokeup, but why are you letting US set all the rules and then complaining about it when we do exactly that? Women don't like men they can push around all the time. And men don't like women who push them around all the time.
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