Supposely my husband has No Contact with the OW since the No Contact letter and also since she has a new sweetie of her own BUT

I have a gut feeling that she still wants to be remembered and right there on a front burner in his heart & mind!
She doesn't want him to forget how 'smitten' they were with one another.

I feel almost certain that she occassionally e-mails him on his office computer and sends cute little e-cards and memory notes.

I have no way of knowing and no way of stopping this...He may be e-mailing her back, he probably is!

I guess before computers and e-mails and cell phones, it was less 'EASY' to continue contact with the OP.
Now it is soooooo convenient for them!

Oh well, just my thoughts that the OW has her own little built in Plan A of always listening to him, never complaining about ANYTHING, always being kind, sweet and loving!
Just me venting, Julie Jo

I probably should have said why I am still suspicious of him and her being in contact!

In his wastebasket at work, the first of December, was a copy of a 'Christmas love e-card' signed from "Your girlie" and written "To Hon".

He said it wasn't his, that others use that wastebasket.
Am I suspose to accuse him of lying or let it slide?
JJ

Keep that info logged back in. Sit back and watch for other slip ups. Doesn't hurt to show the card to others and tell them not to setup your H up. Let them know (in a humorous way) that it makes him look 'suspicious'. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />


You may need to practice this piece so that your emotions don't charge through.


L.

Suspicion leads to a lot of guesswork and inaccurate or incomplete facts. Its hard not to love bust when you think you may be being deceived.

Explain to your husband that you need full disclosure if you are ever going to be able to trust him again. Even if the information is hurtfull at the moment, it is less destructive than deceit.