Hello, (kinda long but still read)

I have been going with this girl for over a year now. When I was in jail about 10 months a go see cheated on me twice once when it was going bad while I was in there and my last night I was getting out that morning. The first time she said was cause she was mad at me and the world and she let this guy talk her into it. The night before my release she let her friend talk her into going to the bar and doing the same guy in the parking lot. That's supposed to be the only two times that she told me of. She was married before and her husband died and I got with her the guy she cheated on me with was one of two guys she cheated on her husband with. She says he knows how to push the buttons to get them to feel all sorry for themselves or something. Anyways when I got out of jail that morning she had a hicci on her neck she said she got drunk and some guy sucked on her neck she didn't have sex with him. Two weeks later she told me it was the guy and she did him in the car I kept questioning her about my time in jail which was only 3 months and she slipt and told me about the other time. So now she says she wouldn't do that anymore she don't want to teach that to her daughter, her mom also was a cheat. But I don't know I feel she has since I gotten out but there is no way to know for sure. I just know that I am in a lot of pain if someone call help i'll greatly appreciate it. Thanks

Welcome to marriagebuilders. Sorry you are here, but it is a good place to learn how to build a good relationship. You will get lots of good advice and if you keep reading here and applying everything, things will get better.

Sounds like she has some problems and could use some counseling. If she cheated on her husband and has cheated on you, she has some things to work on. Please don't get married until you both have worked on yourselves.

It is miserable to go through this, but things do get better. Hang in there and keep checking out the information on this site. It can really change your life.

If you think you are in pain NOW, just wait until you are married with a mortgage and 2 little kids and she is doing some guy in your own bed. THAT is pain. And that is what will happen if you continue with her. You need to wake up and RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.

You have been PRE-WARNED so you have no excuse if you continue with her and she really wrecks your life and that of your future children. She is not marriage material, she is a trainwreck waiting to happen in your life.

I've got to agree. I feel that the worst thing you could possibly do would be to marry this woman too soon, if ever.

At best, you and she had better be danged sure that nothing like this would ever happen again, and what the consequences would be if it did.

Until you know that, beyond a shadow of a doubt, be very very careful about the decisions you make.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The first time she said was cause she was mad at me and the world and she let this guy talk her into it. The night before my release she let her friend talk her into going to the bar and doing the same guy in the parking lot. That's supposed to be the only two times that she told me of. She was married before and her husband died and I got with her the guy she cheated on me with was one of two guys she cheated on her husband with. She says he knows how to push the buttons to get them to feel all sorry for themselves or something. Anyways when I got out of jail that morning she had a hicci on her neck she said she got drunk and some guy sucked on her neck she didn't have sex with him.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She sounds like she would be a wonderful mother to your children.

I'm so sorry for the pain you're experiencing, Deep. I know you hurt.

But, you should really run for your life from this female, she is not marriage-worthy, P-E-R-I-O-D.

There are plenty of good, honest, loving, stable women in the world that would love you and not cheat on you. Move forward and build a GOOD life with one of them.

Lv,
Jo