Any of you willing to share your "special Song" with me?<P>I was at a club a few days after I found out, and the song "Wonderful Tonight" by Eric Clapton came on. I just started balling right there on the dance floor...fell to the ground. I had to go outside. That song is so meaningful to "us"... Many of slow dances, wedding, prom....<P>Also, I was in my car the other day and the song (not to sure of title) "Take A Look at Me" by Phil Collins...<P>"How could I just let you walk away,<BR>Just let you leave without a trace,<BR>....Sonething something something..<P>Your the only one, Who really knew me at allllll...<BR>So take a look at me now, Cause Ill still be standing here.<BR>You coming back to me is a chance I take, <BR>And thats what I've got to face...<P><BR>Yeah that one song! <P>Makes me cry just typing it.<BR> <BR>Can any of you relate to this?<P>~Heather

Heather, <P>It is kind of slow here on the weekends. But I can relate. The Phil Collins song hit me hard. H loves Phil Collins so it has even more meaning. <P>For me, I did not listen to music for about 3 months. Not even the news in the car. Couldn't stand any kind of music. I have a six year old so hearing digimon and pokemon tunes were about all I heard at that time. <P>Now I can listen to music. I had to reconcile myself that it is not everyone else's fault that I have this problem. So I listen to tunes and hum along like before. Still some hurt. <P>Song's about infidelity hurt a lot and they are very common. A lot of those country western songs are hard to listen to, good thing I like rythm and blues but those contain a lot of sad songs to, even soft rock. Oh well can't get away from it. So I went to instrumental but then the ones that I knew the lyrics to came back and played in my head!!!!! <P>Music comes from the heart and right now that is where a lot of our problems are based on. So either I clam up and go sulk under a rock or I sing along and make myself go through this. I have chosen the later. It does help with the healing. <P>That song about Me & Mrs. Jones and songs like that still make me switch stations!!!!!! LOL!!<P>L. <BR>

Take a look at me now is the one that gets me as well, i even bought it for my H not sure if it had any effect though.<P>------------------<BR>lizzle<BR>The hardest thing to do is watch the person you love love someone else

It's 3 months since D-day, and I can't listen to anything. They are all sad to me. I switched to Christian radio, which keeps me away from the sad stuff, and picks me up. <P>Every song I heard for the first 2 weeks - before I got smart and turned them off - duh!!! - was terribly depressing. And movies and many tv shows with romance, sex, infidelity... are the same way.

Phil Collins also has a more positive song that hits home for me and it has a great beat. Don't Let Him Steal Your Heart Away.<BR>You were lonely and you needed a friend, and he was there at the right time with the right smile.<BR>Just a shoulder to lean on, someone to tell you it will all work out alright.<BR>But he's no good for you, He'll make you think your whole life's been leading to this.<BR>But whatever you do, think about me oh and don't be fooled by his kiss...<BR>...And don't pack my suitcase, I'll be back.<BR>Don't take my pictures off of the wall, oh did you hear me.<BR>Don't let him change a thing, cause I'll be back. Just tell him to pack his things and get out of your life.<BR>And just give me one more chance I'll show you I'm right, you know I'm right!<P>Anyway, the hardest songs for me to hear are the lovesongs on the CD that my H made for the OW...ICK!!!