i shall try to give as much background about this as i can so bare with me if im not in time line of events<P>I am a waitress by trade, and a very good one, i love people and they love me, <P>2 years ago - i had been working at a truck stop for about a year when one rude trucker had said something dereogatory about my boobs..( let me see them or something dont quite remember now) anyhow, i was rather insulted and told him he was an [censored] ( as well as some other truckers coming to my defense) anyhow this trucker went to my boss said i was a rude crappy waitress etc.<P>my boss fired me on the spot. never asked my opinion etc.<BR>i was crushed seeing how i love my job and worked well with the staff and with the customers.<P>ok now more to day. I have been working in a small family owned store as a cashier ( i am ther only employee)where they allowed me to bring my toddler with me because i have no sitter during the day. now that baby is walking i gave my 2 week notice because she doesnt like being stuck in a playpen and is diffiult to work and take care of baby.<P>2 days ago the restaurant that i USED to work at (under new management, new bosses etc) my old bosses boss called me and asked me if id like to waitress from 6 - 10...i was all for it... we could use the money and i missed waitressing.<BR>this caused a HUGE blow out between me and my H . H does not want me working there because of what the previous owners did to me( fired me and upset me terribly)<BR>i tried to explain to H that that boss was no longer there. and the chances of these new people firing me were slim....( i explained to new bosses about WHY i got fired) <BR>anyhow i did not go and waitress because H refuses to bring me or pick me up or watch the baby. this was very upsetting to me i felt like he was trying to Control me and run my life. and i told him so and he said that besides the fact that he thinks i will get screwed over again im 6 months pregnant and shouldnt be working on my feet.<BR>( note: this is a ver easy pregnancy i feel great most of the time and usually have endless energy... no swelling no water retention etc)I felt perfectly capable of going but H did not ( also note i would be working with truck drivers and chaces of me carrying more than 2 plates at a time are slim.)<BR>H is presently not working and a few bucks extra wouldnt hurt.<P>ok so yesterday i was talking with my present boss, who was very upset to see me go and would not have anyone to work after i left and would have to close the store.<P>i felt horrible my boss is a great person. so i came up with this idea to let my H temporarily work my cashier job until my boss could find someone or until H found a BETTER JOB... H wil lbe making 225 take home a week and is stretching it ..<BR>so my question is this<P>i would like to go back waitressing one or 2 nights aweek <BR>how can i talk to H about this and convince him that i wont get screwed over again ad that i wont harm the baby any advice please<P><BR>

How about having the new bosses come over to your house and talk to H face to face to ease his fears? Ask him to have an open mind and hear the boss out, and that you two will talk after the meeting and come to a mutual agreement?? At least that way he feels a part of the decision process and doesnt feel like you are just going to do it anyway??<P>Trueheart

Hi LOTR,<P> It seems to me there is more going on with H than what he said. Could it be possible that he is worried that you might meet a lonely truck driver? <P> Just a thought, but it sounds kind of like this could be something he thinks. Did he seem jealous the last time you worked there? I would have some concerns myself as I know truckers. <P> jd

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LOTR,<BR>I agree with J.D. Is there more to the situation???<BR>I know as a women it is nice to work a little bit, just a couple on nights a week would be fine for me. But unfortantley I work 30-40 hrs a week b/c my job gives me full benefits for whole family(24 hrs a week min).Niiiccee I would tell your H to come down a watch you work for a couple of times to see how the atmosphere was. Tell him you need to get away from the house just a few days a week and why not earn money while you are not working around the house.Good luck. Sherry