My husband of 20 years (father of our 3 children) has been having A since May. She lives in another country, but they meet on business trips approx. once a month. I found out about A 2 weeks ago. I'm trying to Option A all I can, and he had promised to drop all contact with OW. That lasted less than a week. I'm fairly sure he's back in contact with OW and they're planning on meeting again in 2 weeks. Do I tell him I know and that he needs to again commit to no contact or else move out? Or continue to try to show him the positives of staying with me and his children and hope the plans fall through? Or make him move out when I get confirmation of meeting (frequent flyer records and <BR>credit card bills)? Please help. Am trying to get started with a counsellor, but haven't been able to get a first appointment scheduled yet.

What gives YOU the most peace?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by BINthereDUNthat:<BR><B>What gives YOU the most peace?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Probably....waiting it out. Since I've only been working on<BR>this for two weeks and we haven't been to counselling yet, plus I don't know FOR SURE that they're in contact...can<BR>try to be patient. We do have our first counselling session<BR>on Monday, but I'm not positive he'll go. He told me two weeks ago he would, but if he's in contact with OW again I'm afraid he'll back out. If he says no, I will go anyway. Like most BS's, I am going crazy with depression. Sometimes I wonder if separation would wake him up as he is the type who's always been honest and of good character, until now. I am tempted to just come out and ask if they're talking again, but figure that would be LBing.<BR>