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#2995793 08/31/01 04:55 PM
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well, folks I caught her in her 5th d-day! She was with the OM and a friend of mine ran into her. So she denied everything of course. Just dropping off something to him, havent seen him in a long while. Meen while she's been in contact with him while she waffles. AS for me I have my clothes and although the BS should never leave, after 15 months Im sleeping over a friends house. I told her I need time to sort this out, and I really do.<BR> SO I guess this really could be the end. I dont know where to go from here. This is like the 5th time of hitting rock bottom. She doesnt show any signs of honesty which in turn meens she doesnt want to work on the marriage.<BR> I also called the OM but that went know where as I suspected. I was a gentleman he turned into a raving lunatic! <BR> So any ideas, I know this could very well be it. I dont know if she can pick any reality out of this mess. I told her all I wanted to do is make this work for us and the kids. Where are you going to be now with this OM that is married and doesnt want to leave his wife.<BR> Thanks gang, and good luck!

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Bumping myself up for some help!

#2995795 08/31/01 06:34 PM
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You and your children deserve better than this. After 5 times I think it time for you to think about you and your children's happiness. How much more are you willing to take?<BR>If you no longer have honesty that what do you really have left and what are you really holding on to? I wish you luck.

#2995796 08/31/01 08:48 PM
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My suggestion,,,,don't leave. You are handing her the fantasy on a silver platter. All the freedom she wants and doesn't even have to leave home to get it. Make her face reality,, and the reality is,,if she no longer wants to be in a committed relationship with you, she needs to remove HERSELF. I would remain in my home and tell her if she can not recommit to the marriage, SHE needs to make other arrangements. JMHO

#2995797 08/31/01 10:38 PM
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Thanks guys, I told her I was staying at a friends house tonight to figure some things out. Then who knows what my plan will be. But I cant keep being her doormat. She probably will not leave the kids. And turn everything around on me like Im crazy, you no the story.


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