Just an update on how our weekend went...activities with our children....had lots of fun with them...we were cordall with each other but no intamacy...hasn't been any since Feb...H says he is not ready for any right now between us....I don't know when that might happen..I had told Chasz in an earlier post that I might try to initiate some contact between us over the next week or so but I just don't know.. We'll see..I had mentioned to H that I wanted some money transferred from our savings account to our checking account...that seemed to upset him...I think that he considers our savings his nest egg to escape (leave me - move out) if he feels like he needs too and doesn't want any of that money spent...I am getting so tired of being rejected and having such a feeling of being used and not respected....I don't know how long I can do this.....I just now am starting to come to some decision of my own on how long I will tolerate this.....BS's does it get any easier to watch them in their arrogance stroll around like they haven't done anything wrong??? I pray for mercy and grace from God in dealing with him because I sometimes can hardly stand to be around him. I am moving on with or without him.....He will not destroy me in this process...I will be a better person from this experience. If he leaves me, he may regret it someday and wish he would have stayed with me...I hope I can become that desirable....thanks for listening and letting me vent.............<P>------------------<BR>always-faith4us

Hi faith4us. I'm sorry your weekend didn't go as well as you had hoped. Darn that fog! I'm sorry how long have you been in plan A? Is your H consistent in his ways or does it change day to day? I know it's hard. I'm so happy part of the day and then that quick my H can do or say something and I'm an emotional mess. Being the BS really sucks! I wanted you to know that I read your post and I'm here if you need to talk. I know what you mean about making a decision. If my H doesn't decide what he wants soon I'm afarid i will have to make the decision myself. It's to hard this emotional rollercoaster and I can't live in limbo land much longer. Take care and god bless. <BR>cybil

All in all, the WS's heads are befuddled and muddied....aka FOG. Plan A to the best of your ability without losing yourself in the process. The BS has a long row to hoe insofar as trying to keep the marriage intact. A good Plan A will find good results. Hopefully, it will be well worth your efforts.<P>Stay strong......<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

Thanks guys for your replys! I have been Plan Aing really since January of this year....H wouldn't admitt any involvement with OW...I had to go find the proof myself which I started uncovering Memorial Day weekend and have had several revelations since then.....why can't they for once tell the truth without you having to go out and find the proof yourself? The lies, lies, lies,...I don't know how they slept at night...of course, they're not "in love" with you anymore so I guess it makes it easier to lie....boy, I hope I never find myself in such a mess.....(be a WS)<BR>Anyway, my H is home tonight (labor day holiday) and he is as distant as ever.....Hope you have a good evening......<BR>He did agree to fill out the EN's questionare...we will see...I will post tomorrow and let you guys know if he did or didn't........<P>------------------<BR>always-faith4us