My WH is a very shy man. He has been living with OW for 6.5 months since d-day. I plan Aed for 5.5 months and then plan Bed. I broke the plan B after 2 weeks by calling him about looking at a new house for me. <BR>I have tryed to remain in plan B though we've had regular contact since I called him. He offered me a credit card, calls more frequently, and came over twice in 2 days last week-alot for him. He has been the most polite that I have ever known him to be. The weekend has come around and I have not heard from him-she's not working. <BR>Am I reading too much into this? Is he still trying to hang on to me and her? Or is there a possibility he's actually thinking of dumping her and coming home???<P>If he actually decided he wanted to move back home I don't know how he would do it with me being in my plan B mode and him being extra shy. <BR>Is there some way to make it easy for him to have an "in " to coming home or should I keep my distance with the plan B?<BR>Any words of wisdom out there??

Maezy- I never did a formal plan B but I did ask H to move out 10 days after d-day because he refused to either end his A or go to counseling. I did allow him to come by to see the kids and of course I was here as well. sometimes he would ask if he could stay for dinner and I would tell yes, this is your home too and not say anymore.When he kissed the kids goodbye when he would leave at night that ripped my heart- but sometimes I would reach for him and give him a quick hug on the way out the door and he didnt seem to mind. He never separated our finances so that was not a dilemma. I took that as a positive sign too even though he told me he was seeing some divorce lawyers and visiting apts. ( that was due to pressure from OW I found out later)I didnt ask him much details about what was going on between him and OW. I never got very far by pressuring him to TALK to me about our future- instead he was so confused and would bring up D which I was very much against.I just tried to ACT friendly and carefree when he was around. It was REALLY hard believe me. After 6 wks or so he just came home all of a sudden one night- I heard the garage door go up and there he was with his laundry basket full of clothes. lifeismessy

Thanks Lifeismessy<BR>WoW!He just showed up? I agree with acting friendly and carefree. I don't(haven't) been successful with him talking about her or the A either.<BR>I appreciate your responce.