I am the WW. I have agreed to allow my husband to place a keylogger on my phone for accountability purposes. I tried flexispy but the phone had to be rooted and it completely destroyed my phone. We are looking for a good software that can monitor text messages, phone calls, internet usage, monitors app's like what;s app, kik, GPS etc. Can anyone recommend something that is safe for the phone and won't drain the battery usage. Thanks

Have you tried webwatcher?

Is this affair recent? Has it been exposed? Who was the OM? Will your BH come here and post?

yes the affair has been exposed and is completely over. i am the one who wanted to put the keylogger on the phone for extra support for my husband, I just need one that doesn't root the phone and doesn't drain my battery in 30 min. He has access to all my email accounts . If someone has a safe app that records text messages, phone calls, internet access, access to apps like kik and whats app. any suggestions that are safe for the phone would be greatly appreciated. I am trying to be 100% transparent.

Have you tried webwatcher?

I haven't tried webwatcher. The only one I tried was flexispy and it completely ruined my phone, Like almost burned it up. It had to be rooted and it had compromised all my apps. I will look into this one today. I have also looked at several that are marketed to "parents" to keep their children safe. Do you have any knowledge in those.
Do you know if webwatcher is safe for the phone but will capture text, phone calls, all internet access, message apps, block certain websites, and EASY TO INSTALL. I am not tech. savy by any means. Thank you so much for replying. This is so important to get this done. I am going to print off all the info for my husband and i to do together. Thanks again for any suggestions.

Try this one, wifeofcoach: https://www.teensafe.com/ Some have used this one and it seems to be user friendly.

thank you so much for the ideas.

I finally got Mobistealth unrooted version downloaded!!!!

I have a question. What is the Marriage Builders advise on "discussing" the events of the affair? We have put in place several levels of accountability, I have answered every question he has had about the affair, I have practiced radical honesty, we are getting our hours of uninterrupted alone time, but from morning till night he is texting me questions, when we are at home he is asking me questions, before we are intimate he is asking and after he is asking..... please help me to know how to do this.

On another thread you said you were a serial cheater ... how many affairs have you had? With who? How did they happen? When was the most recent affair?

Multiple affairs, all people that were connected with online, some physical and others online affairs only, most recent was last month (online) last physical (3 years). I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and have been in treatment (inpt. and outpt) and quit working on my program and relapsed last month. We have started implementing the Marriage Builders Principals along with me being in treatment, going to ind. therapy, and Celebrate Recovery and 12 step program.

Have all conditions that you used to carry on your affairs been eliminated? Have you got rid of the internet?

What EPs have been put in place?

If you have had multiple online affairs and are a serial cheater, you most definitely should not be online, unless your BH is sitting right there with you.

Did you know that that is what meant by "changing the conditions" under which you are able to have affairs?

The reason you keep doing this is because you have not implemented proper EPs - it's not because of your childhood issues. I spoke to Dr Harley personally about this issue in relation to my serial cheating ex spouse - and this is found in numerous articles on this site.

This is not appropriate for your situation.

Instead you should be asking this forum how you can implement ironclad EPs to prevent from hurting your BH (and your marriage) again.

All of that, other than following MB, is a major distraction from solving the problem. You don't have to go to "counseling" to change behavior. You need to make a decision to stop trolling for action and change your life so you CAN'T troll for action. All the counseling and MB and etc, etc, etc, will not compensate for your decision to TROLL.

Marriage Builders is not equipped to help someone who chooses to be a serial cheater. It is set up for those who were not out chasing action, but lived a lifestyle with poor boundaries that allowed adultery to take place.

Unless you made radical changes in your lifestyle so that it would be impossible to cheat, your husband is not safe. That means NEVER EVER being on a computer out of his sight and never ever being away from him. You should find a way to be together 24/7.

Bottom line: no amount of "counseling" will change someone who is out trolling for action.

The advise is to get off the computer and get a dumb phone. You have to change the environment that made it possible for you to troll for action.

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This is an utter waste of valuable time that is a distraction from your ADULT problems. You should stop wasting valuable time and focus on fixing your present behavior. Otherwise, I would tell your husband to run for his life.