So yesterday I discovered a phone. Shockingly t had some photos and messages on it. I confronted my WS who initially denied anything. Finally he accepted that he has been having an affair. I have known something was wrong - we have been unhappy for a few months. He has avoided talking to me about our issues and has been quite horrid in the way he has treated me. I never know when he is travelling, he never shows any affection and I am at a loss as to what to do next.
Last night I stayed with a friend, who has been through something similar and pointed me to this site. I am hopeful you can guide me through these unchartered waters.
We have two teenage children.
WS is refusing to move out (I don't know the laws in the UK) and is indicating that I should be the one to go.
Money is tight and it has caused many stresses in our marriage.
WS has apparently taken legal advice - I have not spoken to anyone yet as I only found evidence yesterday that something was 'going on'.
I have read HNHN and this has helped but I am at a loss as to what to do next.
Please help me soon. I am beside myself with worry and grief.
Thank you xxx
Please note that I am using my friends account as I do not want my WS to see this.


Last edited by AEK1; 03/03/18 02:28 AM.