I am at a point of divorce, we are married by paper alone. As he left for �work� almost three years ago to which I said no.. Convientantly as I was diagnosed with chronic illness, all drs saying ptsd from this. I�m scared , I�ve had enough and he says he wants to stay married but there�s been sex addiction, porn, affairs, all he denies. When I�ve tried to go there , confront, it�s ended horribly effected my health. Now, in false reconciliation and bottom line there are fake promises to get help, see me..all lies., I have and do, did..I�m over this sadly.i wish but realize...there�s no effort. I know my options, rights, have a pleothra of evidence, he still denies. (So absolutely strange, I can�t even fathom what�s the issue with that, decinitelymedical).It�s torn my life upside down and there�s no remorse. He states I blame, as If a child v. Accountability and I have been harsh .i was wrong I admit.you name it sleep challenging and years now.You name it I�ve went through it. Where do I begin, I was ready awhile ago ,he comes back two visits to me, in all this time, not good ones. Not wanted , touched, if so my invitation, or ask.leave I gotta you empty, dirty almost. All with belief at the it turns out, we can be the new grandparents....it was bull.. I�ve said get help suggest sites, books, an md as I do feel there�s an organic imbalance due to actions. He won�t do the work and I realize he wants no help..I�m doing it. I�m angry at me as I believed,, we�ve married twice, stupidly and same man inside sadly. The most challenging factor, the person I once knew had a heart is the callous, scheming, unknown being but no midlife mind you.How could I be so stupid now it�s reconcile risk my health further, as he wants his cake and eat it too , prostitution legal buying brides , I can�t understand . Do I finally severe ties., our child says yes as she will.as he left ot it all.We have adult child. It�s unbearably painful.I feel like a toy and want my power and me back. Rerearding the� his and her needs�, as I�m literally exhausted. Any guidance, words of wisdom? I ask for prayers. Thanks for the shoulder. I want to go into detail but when reality of this isn�t good for me and flat wrong truly hits. I�m sickedpned to discuss them oh and there�s narcissism behavior not labeling studied long to know, work in, and sadly understand. I never thought it would be me. I�m sick, he�s sick...we need help.

Welcome to MB.

How long have you been married? You have one adult child, is that correct?

Yes one adult child, trying for help, already in this program states he read , now didn�t, .. this morning where to go to? Wrong or right. I replied as have sent so many times over the years that he needs to do for himself. Deceit in reading the basic concepts he agreed too already.I'm so hurt as I try, read, pray, beg and just the lazy in the relationship but deceit in getting help...states he sent I. Request for coaching segment waiting for reply? What to believe?. I guess this is a vent , I apologize but what does this say on authentically wanting assistance? I feel broken.if over, not wanting assistance help say so. I. Confused and hurt.

Hi Katie, welcome to Marriage Builders. I am having trouble understanding your situation. Are you separated now? Is he having an affair? How many affairs has he had? How long married?