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One of the points that Dr. Harley often makes as a psychologist is that everybody needs an escape in life, and that married people need to escape together.
The thing is, as Prisca points out, is that if you aren't enjoying the time together, then it's not an escape for you.
Your husband needs to get involved in figuring out how to help you have an escape from the stress of life - some time enjoyable, somehow, some way.
One thing I do for Prisca that she likes is cook her nice meals at night after our kids are in bed. It's not the same as a date outside the house, but it definitely helps her unwind with me after a long day.
Did you hear back from contacting Dr. Harley?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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I was just listening to an archived radio show where Dr. Harley said, as he does many times, that your most enjoyable recreational activities need to be with your spouse. He says it’s dangerous for the marriage for you to enjoy recreation outside your marriage or by yourself, independent of your spouse, more than you enjoy what you do together. Would you and/or your husband be open to brainstorming on this together and finding something you both love to do together? Something you would both like better than what either of you do apart from each other?
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