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Please help…I need advice.
My fiancé has preferred to finish himself for about the last month, I’m so frustrated. He does it daily(at least twice) and I can hear it in the shower. To top it off I called him after work because I hadn’t heard from him and he was at the clinic because his downstairs area was raw with a rash. I could see from his location on iPhone that he stopped by rite aid before coming home from the clinic so I know he picked something up. He’s telling me the doctor thinks it might be a bacterial infection but “he won’t have results for 2 days”
What do you think is happening and what should I do/say?!

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Originally Posted by Danvol
Please help…I need advice.
My fiancé has preferred to finish himself for about the last month, I’m so frustrated. He does it daily(at least twice) and I can hear it in the shower. To top it off I called him after work because I hadn’t heard from him and he was at the clinic because his downstairs area was raw with a rash. I could see from his location on iPhone that he stopped by rite aid before coming home from the clinic so I know he picked something up. He’s telling me the doctor thinks it might be a bacterial infection but “he won’t have results for 2 days”
What do you think is happening and what should I do/say?!
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Does he watch porn? When will he be getting his results back? Have you been checked for STIs?

Has he cheated before?


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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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He's cheating.
He's probably been cheating the entire relationship.
He isn't going to stop.


He has an STI, std, or caught an infection, etc..


I hope that you find the strength, self esteem, and self respect.....

To love yourself better
To know that you deserve someone who genuinely loves, treats you well, and adores you.


To leave him.

Don't stay, things will only get worse.


Now that you know, (assuming that you haven't already)

Are you going to continue to stay and tolerate it, or leave him and respect yourself?


Also, you must get tested for everything asap.


He doesn't even care.

If he cared enough or at all about you,

He would tell you everything... because your health may be compromised.



He's putting your health in jeopardy and doesn't even care nor have the decency to tell you.



He knows that he can't fully commit to you or perhaps anyone and should remain single... Therefore he should end things and be single.

He strings you along and fills you with pipe dreams and empty promises.

But you let him string you along.



He doesn't care.

Leave.

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Hey. In your case, the most important thing is to take care of your health first. Also, you should talk like adults, calmly and sincerely. If you know a person well, you can understand that he is lying to you. If you are unable to understand this or do not want to notice his actions, you want to justify him, then think about why you are doing this.
I wish you good luck and take care


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