I’m in a bad spot mentally in my marriage. In 2011 my wife left me and took everything (kids, dogs, guns, anything worth money not tied down) and moved from our home in Tx to her hometown in Mo. (we met in the military). She filed fraudulent ex parte orders of protection against me for herself and the kids, made up a ton of lies and told the court I threatened to kill her and the kids. She kept me away from our 3 daughters for 6 months, and finally let me see them and drop the protective order if I agreed to move to Mo where she was living with them. I agreed to reconcile because honestly I missed my kids to the point I was ready to eat a bullet.
Her reason for leaving was she was “unhappy”. My gut tells me she was [censored] somebody or multiple somebodies, but I did a lot of personal work on myself and a lot of forgiving (or so I thought). We reconciled and have been living in Mo for the past 10-11 years. I don’t think I can stay in this marriage. Her leaving had a hugely negative impact on our daughters who blame/blamed me for disappearing for 6 months. Im 44 years old, and we just had to move rental houses after 10 years. I paid 8 grand to find us a new home, she paid nothing to help me. She works full time and we split the bills as a percentage based on our incomes. For a while she went out of her way to make up her mistakes to me. She’s now going peri menopausal and she’s getting nasty. Im having an impossible time not resenting what she did to me, especially with the recent hormonal changes. My youngest is 16, and I feel like I need to get out of this marriage before my best years are over. I’ve never cheated, never been abusive, I’ve always stood up for her and my kids. I’ve been a great husband and father though of course I’ve made mistakes over the years. I went 4 years not talking to my mother and sister because they repeatedly disrespected her. I feel like I’ve given her everything and im sad, depressed, resentful, and the fact I know she cheated and she won’t admit it is killing me. I need help. I’m living in a state I hate working a job I dislike and I’m not happy. I think I deserve happiness and I’m afraid the only way I’ll get it is to divorce her.
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