Hello all, my wife and I have been married for about 2.5 years now, together for total of just over 3.5, and she left in June of this year and went to go live with her parents and took our then 6 month old. She is still living with them 2 hours away from me and has gotten a new job and is doing totally fine and says she doesn’t need my help but that she doesn’t feel comfortable with me around our child so I have been learning how to change a diaper 1/week from her for the last 2 months per Steve’s advice to try to show her that I can change a diaper and help care for our child.
She says I didn’t help out with the baby enough in the beginning and is still very hurt by how I have treated her during our short time married. We have been doing appointments with steve since beginning of August for a total of 20 now. It just hit me today that it has been thousands of dollars and 20 appointments and we have just now gotten to learning each others emotional needs, not even meeting them…so how many appointments has it taken you others to see improvements in the situation or actually see change? Because for the amount of time, effort and money I am investing, seems like things are not moving as fast they should and that I may being taken for a ride and if it takes another 10-20-30-100 idk appointments, well it’s probably better to cut our losses and move on and she can continue living in hurt and unforgiveness for a s long as she wants, and I can move on to find someone who actually wants to have a healthy relationship and I can use my new skills and abilities to do that.
I have recently had some things happen that have given me a lot of perspective and attitude and behavior shift and so I am 1 week into Plan A right now and I am going to try my best to do whatever I can to care for her and not be defensive, frustrated or oppose her in any right now in hopes that she will come around in the next month.
Last edited by bestintentions; 10/16/24 08:29 PM.
