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My husband and I were together for 7 years. 3 years dating and 4 years marriage.

During dating we both having affairs. I mostly was the one trying to fix and listened to his rants. For a year I let him shouted at me, calling me names, and do whatever he wanted as long he stayed. I was hurt over his affairs but I can’t talk to him about it because I want to mend his pain first. We saw therapist and everything, in the end we decided to get married.

Before we got married I set up boundaries of what is considered cheating and how I don’t want our past affairs contacting us.

There are multiple occasions where he breaks that boundaries, including but not limited to contacting past love affairs and flirts. I never done anything but being the best wife I can. There are occasions where I broke down and had arguments with him because of these affairs. On top of the fact that he barely touched me sexually (I had to beg for kisses), stone wall me, and prioritize his friends. I was alone in our marriage.

At one point he had enough and divorce me. I beg him not to so he settles with separation. We agree to separate with condition that we’re allowed to see other people. I honestly don’t want to see other people but he insisted on it.

I was angry because for 4 years I was good while he had all these girls so I decided to see other people. One of them got serious. I didn’t tell him right away like we agreed to which is my bad.

He got so mad he doesn’t let me in the house unless I apologize for leaving. On my side however I did everything within our agreement so I refuse to apologize. Needless to say he doesn’t want me in the house and since I don’t have my own car plus he cut off my phone service I decided to move in with my new boy friend.

Everyone in his family thinks I’m wrong to do that which I’m fine with but I wasn’t expecting him to agree with them because our arrangement said we can see other people and if anything got serious we just need to tell each other.

Now he wants me back and swore he changed. Am I crazy to divorce him?


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Welcome to MB.

If you both are seeing other people then why stay married? It seems you both are done with this relationship. You should divorce before you move on with someone else.


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I was in quite the pickle at 34 feeling like a romantic disaster, searching for a little meaning in my life, and of course, my long lost Prince Charming. My heart belonged to my childhood sweetheart, I tried everything to get him out of my head, but the more I fought it, the more I felt like I was in a rom-com gone wrong. So, I decided to seek for help because I wanted to feel like a proper woman again, not just a “lost cause” wandering through life.

I reached out for both psychological and spiritual help, that’s when I met a rather unexpected advisor (a quirky friend who tells it like it is). He dissected my romantic history like a surgeon and revealed that my destiny was tied to my childhood love (I never mentioned him to anyone, but somehow, this spiritualist knew) He assured me my ex felt the same way, and that I was the key to helping him find his path again. Now, keep in mind, my ex and I hadn’t spoken in over 18 years. I had no clue if he was even alive, let alone what he looked like. But I believed the advice I received and let him cast a goodwill love spell. I was told I’d hear from him within 48 hours.

Well, 48 hours came and went, and I was a bundle of nerves, I wrote back for clarification, and guess what? My advisor chuckled and told me to check my messages. Lo and behold, there was a text from my ex 😳turns out he’d been trying to reach me but couldn’t for some bizarre reason. He got my number from my cousin at a local restaurant (thank you, spaghetti and meatballs 😜). The conversation flowed as if no time had passed at all. It felt like my heart had been waiting for this moment forever. Fast forward to now 30th of this month marks our one year reunion anniversary.

So, if you’re in a similar boat feeling lost, longing for a past love, or just trying to restore your relationship reach out to omegalovetemple@gmail.com I can’t thank Omega enough for helping me rediscover my happiness. Trust me, your Prince Charming might just be waiting for you too. Don’t remain single for the rest of your life.


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