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Ok, it's me again. I had a better day today, but still struggle to understand. I don't think I will ever understand completely, but I am really trying.<P>One question I have is for the betrayers. Please help!!!!!! For those of you who said that there was no hope, moved in with OP, but eventually decided to give your marriage another try.....what caused you to change your mind? Why did you decide that your marriage was worth the effort it takes to put it back on track? How long did it take you to begin to analyze what had happened and want to make a change? I know that there are no concrete answers, and that is not what I am looking for, just some ideas.<P>For those of you who have children involved...did you do it mainly for the sake of the children? for yourself? for your spouse? Why?<P>Thanks for listening.<P>Sheryl W.
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I know the weekends are quite a bit slower, but could someone help me out a litte.<P>I have another question. Is it "normal" to ry to read something into everything the S says or does? <P>I left a package in H's car. In it were a letter from dd, some of her school papers, and a card from me. When I stopped by the car last night, I found that he had opened everything and left it laying in the floorboard. I then tried to analyze everything. It could mean that he felt like it was garbage and put it with the other trash... or... it could mean that he didn't feel comfortable about taking it to OW's house. I can't seem to help myself, but don't know if I am reacting like "normal" people in the same situation, whatever "normal" is.. or if I am losing it completely.<P>Help!!!!!!!<P>Sheryl W.
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Dear Sheryl K,<P>I am not the betrayer, but I think he left it on the floor because he doesn't want to have any conflict - by bringing it into OW's house.....<P>Maybe it wasn't a conscious decision, but I would imagine that is what he would do.<P>My husband (who is a real jerk and betrayer...) keeps things that are important to him in his truck, under lock and key - until he can get it to his office. Because it is his way of having a separate life. Typical of betrayers.<P>So, maybe he is still hanging on to the thought that this car and it's property inside are his, and not to be shared with the life he is currently sharing with OW.<P>I think it is favorable.<P>TNT
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Thanks for the input. I was hoping that someone else would think the same thing. <P>Thanks.<P>Sheryl W.
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