Ok, so this is a bit of a unique question/situation and I’ll try my best to keep it short

A little over 4 years ago my husband was in a serious car accident that sadly left him paralyzed from the neck down. As you can imagine life has taken a significant turn as a result. The first couple of years were extremely difficult but we got through them as best we could.

In late 2024 my husband approached me about wanting to give me permission to be with other men. At first I was angry and upset and it took me about 6 months to be able to really have a deep discussion with him about it. Since that time our conversations have deepened and I genuinely feel like this is coming from a place of love and care for me. As such I have decided to open myself up to the idea.

I feel extremely torn about this. On one hand there is the real human need and desire for intimacy, on the other hand are the sacred vows we took with each other - for better or worse, right?

Please no judgment, I am genuinely looking for some help in thinking through all of this, please do so with kindness and compassion in mind.