Thanks everyone who has responded,<BR> The last two days have sucked real bad,it seema like most of my posts have been written in desperation. Well they have, however after I post or I should say while I'm posting my feelings and concerns the pain fades. I truly believe pain shared is pain lessoned. I hope you all don't mind if I treat this forum like the 12 step recovery program I've been a member of the past 3 years. It is the only way I know how to cope with life on lifes terms. Early on in my drug recovery I discovered I had a broken"coper",he,he. Anyhow I digressed from what I was saying. I have been doing all those things ya'll suggest(to the best of my sbility). My faith in God has never been better I know he is with me. So far I haven't chose to be miserable for very long. I just got back from a 12 step meeting and I feel ok for now. I like this place because I won't share this stuff in NA meetings. Too much gosip! This EA buisness is almost identicle to the patterns of a using drug addict. My beautiful wife has been reading my posts I'm glad I want to be completely honest with her. Thank you all for your advise and encouragemet.<P>I LOve Ya'll<P>------------------<BR>BB

BB, <BR>Glad to hear you are feeling better tonite.<P>Affairs are like an addiction where the spouse is addicted to someone else. Nothing you or I do can end that addiction. The addicted person has to decide that they want to stop. Then we have to be there to support them. We can't be the reason they are addicted, which is were the Plan A and working on ourselves comes in.<P>I hate to be a downer, but you will have numerous ups and downs in this as your w will have trouble withdrawing from the ob.<P>You have to remain strong and don't be afraid to post. Weekends are usually slow but someone is always around.<P>Hang in there and God Bless!!!!

WilliamJ,<BR>Good to hear you're feeling better. My son is a very active member of NA/AA for 3 (thank God) years now and I find alot of his literature inchangable and useful in dealing with the problems that we face on this site. You keep going to your meetings and you'll never be sorry!! LIke they say at the meetings "Don't give up before the miracle happens"!! Hang in there WilliamJ