I read something in one of Dr. harltey's books about a betrayer who is acting like or is hung in an adolescent stage and how to approach working on reconciliation. do any of you remember this?<P>My H of 28 years had a 4+ year affair before i discovered it. I stayed with him for another year trying to work on the marriage but he would not committ and continued to see and talk to the OW. I finally kicked him out in June and soon he started wanting to come home. I wanted to work on the marriage and told him as long as she was history...come home. He never did but we have played out this scene many times. He begs to come home and then backs out. he professes his love and then doesn't act like someone who loves me. He has just recently begun to show some remourse but is not loving and understanding of me. It's as if all this just happened to him. He acts like a child who has been bad and tries to be nice to calm mama down and then when i calm down he goes back to doing what he wants. <P>I'd love to hear from others as well as gain insight into this.