Hey! Remember me? How's Petunia? The "Judge" is fine for now and behaving himself VERY nicely. Lonestar, you helped me out SO much when I most needed people. I will always be thankful for the advice and support you and the others gave me when I first found out "FOR SURE" about OW and H. Y'all really helped me survive the whole ordeal, know I wasn't alone, know I wasn't crazy, and believe I would survive.<BR>Quick update -- last I "talked" to you, we were headed to Jamaica to save our marriage. That, counseling, and LOTS of hard work, love, laughter, and tears ARE saving us. Of course, you are familiar with the whole recovery thing so you KNOW there are still bad days and bad thoughts. But, I concentrate on the good and we talk it out when the bad won't let go of my head. BIZARRE TWIST -- I am now the "secretary" until h gets a new one. It is actually working out fine. I miss teaching and being a legal secretary is a big change. BUT, I work whenever the boys are in preschool (3 mornings a week) and I can take the baby with me. So, it's like the best of both worlds. I think it helped for two reasons: 1. It got my mind on something besides my miserable life and 2. Who knows more about a lawyer and his whereabouts than his secretary? My counselor says I can't do this forever (I also type the dictation at night -- put in about 35 hours a week) and that one day, I will have to let go of that "safety net" and go back to teaching and let go a little bit. But, for now, it has taken the guess work out of wondering where he is and who he's with and who he's talking to and allowed us to concentrate on making things better for us. You know, I used to think you were crazy for saying you and Petunia had a better marriage after the affair. But, now I believe it and I agree that it is totally possible because it is happening for me. THANKS AGAIN FOR ALL YOU DID FOR ME!!!! Lots of love and prayers -- SIS (no longer "Scared in South")