Hi Sheba!<P>What is this about you, a counselor, and conforming to societal norms?<P>Obviously I don't get over to this site to read as much as I did in the past <P>I have been laying low: just keeping busy focusing on spending time with child on 'my' days, meeting new people, work, and oh yes, the D process <P>H is still angry. Guess the good (in the bad) news is he's still blaming me for his woes (although I would like to know where I am when these decisions are being made, I just don't recall that my input was requested) and projecting onto me -- this indicates that I'm still the 'closest' person to H. Ugh.<P>Oh, the adventures of dealing with an internalizing, conflict-avoiding guy experiencing a mid-life passage. The 'dragon lady' just wants to give him a pair of windshield wipers for the fogged up glasses. Then maybe the knight in shining armor will see his 'princess' as the toad she is.<P>How are things faring on your roller coaster ride? I do miss reading the 'lovely' letters that you write. LOL .