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Pretty new onlist. The term, Conflict Avoiders, came up a few times. I think my husband is one. He is betrayer. Is there a profile of such people or places to learn more about them. <P>Also, any pointers on dealing with them in this situation?<P>Thanks,<P>Melissa<p>[This message has been edited by Callie (edited November 17, 1999).]
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Hi Melissa,<P>I'm sorry I can't help with the ans to your question, I wanted you to know I read your post. <BR>Just the words Conflict Avoider sound like my scoundrel H.<BR>I'll be interested to read what anyone has to say.<P>My email address, if you'd like to email me is <BR> romsey@one.net.au<P>Have a good day.<P>jo
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Frustrated. When I try to post new topics, two of three have disapeared in ozone although I recovered this one in trying to respond to a previous thread thatI could no longer find onlist. this is a test. If it comes up on list. Please give me insight on Conflict avoiders. <P>Melissa
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Conflict Avoiders in my opinion....<P>To discuss a problem (to them) is more painful than the problem. If you try and bring up any discussion that may turn to a conflict - there will be every trick in the book employed to avoid discussing the problem. Even if it means "a good offense is a good defense".... <P>They will only discuss the problem when the problem has grown so much bigger than the potential conflict of a discussion. <P>Just my opinion. Haven't found ANYTHING on my searches of conflict avoiders - except landed myself right back here. <P>Sorry, I don't know why your posts run out to ozone land - is it possible your browser doesn't update? Maybe it is in your internet browser options.<P>TNT
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Have to agree with TNT- I usually don't have a problem finding old posts with answeres I just do a search on them. As far as conflict avoiders are-here is a description. Someone who goes into a restaraunt, gets treated like garbage and then doesn't say a word, just never comes back... Someone who won't tell you when they are having a problem, because they think it will cause too much trouble to try and explain and communicate with you and they sometimes feel they are unworthy of that exposure to their feelings. Someone who one day out of the blue just gets up and leaves, and can't explain why they are soooo unhappy! I ought to know, I used to be one! ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) ! God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>
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Hey ... Here are some conflict sites, they are more for the conflict avoiders, like myself, but they may help.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.weinholds.org/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.weinholds.org/</A> <BR> <A HREF="http://www.qvctc.commnet.edu/classes/conflict/confclas.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.qvctc.commnet.edu/classes/conflict/confclas.html</A> <P><P>------------------<BR>Mater<P>
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Thanks Mater! After I searched and searched the web I only ended back up at marriagebuilders!!!! Thank you<BR>TNT
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I might be wrong, but you may have better luck searching for "passive-aggressive" and how to deal with it, since conflict avoidance is often a symptom of PA.
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Callie,<P>Check this out, and see if this is worth reading:<BR> <A HREF="http://pacskills.com/free_stop_arguing_tips.html#anchor7056078" TARGET=_blank>http://pacskills.com/free_stop_arguing_tips.html#anchor7056078</A>
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Trustntruth,<P>Yes, the site was worth checking out. I bookmarked it. Now I just wnt the chance to try it out. I'm definitely the temper around here although he has one. If I can learn to use this, the conflict avoidance will surely lessen.<P>Melissa
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